Berlin – It’s like putting a puzzle together, piece by piece, and suddenly it all makes sense, a terrible one. Suddenly parents seem to understand what their children wanted to tell them but couldn’t because they are still too young for it or have no idea what touch means affection and which crosses a line. Suddenly parents seem to sense why their children had changed in the past few months, some became aggressive, others so strangely quiet.
And suddenly parents wonder if they should have noticed anything. Because something can’t be right when children hold on to the door frame in the morning, scream, and don’t want to go to daycare. Because of him. Because of what he did to them. But the parents concerned could not have known that a few days ago. The pieces of the puzzle were too far apart to make a picture of them.
There is a case of abuse in Spandau, two daycare centers are affected, a male educator, 32 years old, is said to have sexually assaulted several children. The State Criminal Police Office is investigating the alleged perpetrator is at large. These are the facts that have gradually reached the public. And since then, a circle of mutual accusations and accusations has formed: educators against Kita management, Kita management against Kita providers, and there is the Arbeiterwohlfahrt (AWO), whose crisis management is about as successful as the previous prevention work.
Did the police lose too much time?
Then there are the various police departments that currently have to find out who informed whom too late or not at all, who looked the other way or tried to cover up something. Did the officers let too much time pass by themselves? How could an educator get a new job when they were investigated four years ago?
And next to them are the parents who, almost two weeks after a parents’ evening at which they were informed about the suspected case, still have more questions than answers. On this Wednesday afternoon, some of them gathered in front of the Spandau town hall. They had umbrellas with them and self-painted messages: “Children need more protection!” And: “Sexual abuse is soul robbery!”
And how this truth is gradually uncovered, at home in conversations with their children or in the presence of psychologists, two affected fathers talked about it in front of about 200 people: worried mothers, angry fathers, horrified grandparents, an employee of the youth welfare office, district councilors of the left and the AfD, nobody from the AWO. Also present: anti-bullying coach Carsten Stahl, who competes for the free voters this year.
Parents seek help from anti-bullying coach Carsten Stahl
He is in close contact with the parents of the daycare center concerned; after the allegations became known, they approached him and asked for help. He told the Berliner Zeitung in connection with the terrible incidents in the Spandau daycare center in the usual direct tone: “Anyone who kills, tortures, abuses, abuses, and physically exploits and abuses children must always be locked away for a long time, maybe forever. “In his opinion, the authorities prevent cases of sexual violence such as the current daycare scandal from reaching the public. Stahl: “This leaves the citizen in a targeted manner in ignorance of crimes such as gang rape or abuse of children in Berlin.” Child protection is “non-negotiable”.
“Who gets the idea,” said a father into the microphone, “that something like this would happen in the daycare center.” Above all, he could not understand that the Kita management did nothing when several parents suspected the alleged perpetrator touched their children in ways educators shouldn’t. The father got angry when he gave the explanation himself: Because the parents had not mentioned the word “complaint”. The Kita management would only have acted in the event of an official complaint, so the argumentation. That is not the only thing that is surprising. And it’s not the only mistake that has been made. The puzzle is far from complete.