2023-10-30 22:47:25
Many stories seem to be perfect until the truth comes to light, we tell you what to do if you discover you are the third person in a relationship.
A social media user identified as “SotiRules” went viral after publishing a controversial video in which she shared that she realized that she is “the horn” in a relationship between two people who are about to get married.
“I have a moral dilemma (…) a mess in my head that I can’t believe myself” and proceeds to explain.
In the video she explains that she had been dating a boy for many years and that she knew that this man had a relationship, however he always told her that the relationship was nothing serious, so they had no problem continuing to see each other knowing that He was seeing another woman.
However, they stopped seeing each other after a while, but a few days ago she decided to access the Instagram account of the boy in question, only to discover that he was engaged to the girl who he swore “wasn’t anything serious,” and Worst of all, he asked her to marry him while he was with “sotirules”, the girl who tells the story.
That is why the girl turns to her social networks to ask her followers for advice, since she herself confessed that if she were in the situation of the future wife, she would like someone to tell her that “she was a cuckold.”
“If I were in this girl’s place, I would like to know, that is, I don’t want to marry someone who cheated on me.”
That’s why he wonders whether or not he should write to the girlfriend to tell her that while she was getting engaged to her boyfriend, he had an affair with the girl in the video or, on the contrary, let them live their story “in ignorance.”
Photo: TikTok @sotirules, iStock
How does being “the other” person in the relationship affect you?
An article published in the United States National Library of Medicine analyzed the impacts on the lives of people who commit and suffer infidelity.
The results showed that there is suffering on both parties, from the person who commits infidelity to the one who receives it, and even in the person who discovers that he is the third person in a relationship.
The most reported feelings were: anger, betrayal, insecurity, wrath, shame, guilt, jealousy and sadness.
These emotions were shown to a greater or lesser extent depending on the particular case, but the truth is that the effects can be various and last for many months and even years.
How do I know if I am “the other” person in the relationship?
To find out if you are “the other” person in a relationship, you need to pay attention to certain indicators.
First, see if your partner is evasive or non-transparent about his or her personal life and commitments. If he always seems to have excuses for not spending time with you at certain times, it could be a sign that you have a secondary role in his life.
Also, notice how he behaves in public with you, for example, if he avoids showing you affection in public places or if he seems to keep his relationship with you a secret, this is a red flag.
Open communication is key: talk to your partner and ask them directly about their situation and their intentions with you.
If you feel relegated to the background and don’t see a serious commitment on the horizon, it’s important to consider whether this relationship is right for you and benefits your emotional well-being.
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¿What to do when you find yourself in a “love triangle”?
Now, if already you discovered that you are the third person in a relationshipit is important that you know how you should act so that your emotions do not continue to be hurt.
First of all, it is crucial to reflect on your own feelings and needs. Consider whether you want to continue in a relationship that is not completely honest and committed, or whether it is best to end the situation.
Next, communicate your feelings and expectations clearly with the person involved. Ask about their intentions and whether there is a chance of a real commitment in the future.
However, it is important to be prepared to make difficult decisions if the relationship is not what you want or if your emotional needs are not being respected.
Now, on the other hand, you must evaluate the impact that your words have and know what is and what is not under your control, for example, it is within your control to tell the cheating person’s partner the truth, but you must deal with with the consequences that this could have.
Or, choose to distance yourself from the person who leads a double life and continue with your story without seeking to affect third parties, just remember to be responsible and aware of the actions you decide to take before carrying out an action plan.
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