2023-11-24 02:14:00
Because she was born prematurely, my daughter is not as healthy as other babies her age. I get sick very easily, have difficulty eating, sleeping, and cry a lot.
At the beginning of last month, my confinement period ended and I planned to ask my grandmother to take care of my child so I could go back to work. However, the season is busy in the countryside, and my grandmother is busy with farm work so she can’t come up yet. My grandmother and grandfather were constantly sick and could not leave the house.
My husband whispered: “Or I should ask for unpaid leave for another month or two. I’m still young, so I don’t feel secure hiring someone.” Loving my child, I decided to take unpaid leave for a while. Luckily, my boss was a woman. When she heard me explain the situation, she nodded in encouragement.
Sometimes, an unintentional word can hurt your partner (Illustration: iStock).
A few weeks ago, my child got hand, foot and mouth disease. He had a fever, rashes all over his mouth and hands and feet, refused to eat, and cried continuously for several days. During the days when the child is sick, at night my husband wants to help carry the child. But because he is clumsy and not used to staying up all night and has to work during the day, I told my husband to sleep separately for peace.
Fortunately, after 4 days the baby got better, ate well and slept well as usual. But having to take care of my child for several nights in a row almost exhausted me.
So, the next few days, I was always in a state of lack of sleep. That afternoon, after cleaning the house and washing clothes, I went to bed and slept with the baby.
It wasn’t until after 5pm that I woke up and saw my child lying and playing next to me. Outside the gate there was a sound of unlocking, my husband had come home from work.
As soon as he entered the house, he said that he had to eat early today and that he needed to visit his best friend’s funeral. When he learned that I hadn’t prepared dinner yet, he felt annoyed: “You’ve been at home doing nothing all day and you still haven’t cooked a grain of rice yet.” At that moment, self-pity seemed to fill my chest. I really want to cry.
From the day I took maternity leave, except for the first month when my grandmother and grandmother supported me, after that I was alone with taking care of the children, shopping, cooking, and cleaning the house. Although the work of a nursing mother is not too heavy, the little things still revolve around all day.
I am like most of these wife She’s a stay-at-home mom and sees her husband going to work as a big deal. When I stay at home, I try to finish whatever I can do, so that when my husband comes home, he can just relax and play with the children, delicious rice and sweet soup are waiting, and I don’t have to do anything. Maybe that’s why my husband thinks I stay at home too leisurely, basically doing nothing.
The next morning, I woke up late, did not prepare clothes, nor prepared breakfast. I told her the baby cried at night, and in the morning I couldn’t open my eyes. On the way to work, he stopped by any restaurant to eat.
All day I just played with my children, didn’t bother putting clothes in the washing machine, and didn’t clean or organize the house. My children’s toys are spread all over the house, I ignore them. I called my friends and asked someone to find a nanny to look after the baby. I need to go back to work.
On the first day, looking at the messy house, my husband didn’t say anything, just cleaned it up to make it tidy. He saw that I wasn’t proactive in talking, nor was I as happy as usual.
On the third day, seemingly unfamiliar with the situation before him, he asked me: “What’s wrong with you these days?” I said, I can’t do anything. But you keep wondering what I do at home all day? If I don’t do anything it will be like that.
I told my husband: Just because I don’t go to work doesn’t mean I stay home and do nothing. It is not natural for children to grow up healthy and obedient. Houses are not naturally neat and clean, beds and pillows are not naturally fragrant. Rice and soup are not cooked by Ms. Tam coming out of a fruit.
Every day when he comes home from work, he doesn’t have to do anything. It’s not that there’s nothing to do at home, but I take advantage of the opportunity to do all the work before he comes home. Every night when my child was sick and cried, he was able to sleep well because I stayed up to comfort him. Yet, because I was tired, I overslept one afternoon and was late cooking a meal. He annoyedly asked, “What are you doing at home all day?”
After listening, my husband was silent for a while then came closer and hugged my shoulders, whispering: “I’m wrong. It’s not that I don’t know. It’s just that I was in a hurry that day so I accidentally said something. I didn’t think it would make you so angry.” .
Actually, I’m not angry with my husband, I’m just sorry for myself. Wives who love their husbands and children like me, family is the reason for life. Because of love, because of compassion, we are ready to take care of and nurture. Husbands who can share are good, if not, then at least know how to acknowledge it.
I just took a break from staying at home for a while, but what about other wives who, for one reason or another, choose to be a full-time mother or wife? All their energy is devoted to their husband and children. If they are not understood, their sadness will be even greater.
I devote myself to others not to expect anything in return. Sometimes, just a word of encouragement is enough motivation, an unintentional word can hurt, as painful as being cut by a knife.
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