2023-11-22 09:11:48
by Marco Imarisio
Women, in general, just want their children to be happy. We’ll get there later. First, we want them to be strong above all. Is not the same thing
I have learned one thing over the years. Saying I’m not like him, thinking that any reasoning about society automatically means lightening individual responsibility, can make us feel absolved, but it doesn’t save us. So, let’s at least try.
We men don’t care too much about something as boring as the training and education of our children. We start by saying that in the first years of life the little ones belong only to their mother, she ends up playing with them on the pitch, deluding herself that this is the famous time well spent. Let’s try to count each other at class meetings. Mothers are always the vast majority. And they almost always talk to female teachers, because as we know, it is a profession that leaves time. To do what? But to take care of their children’s education and home, what the heck. How many times have we changed our children’s dirty diapers and underwear? Less than our companions. And when we do it, maybe we are proud of ourselves. Isolated gestures. Without perhaps thinking that even wiping your bottom explains to children what equality is.
Because even in the homes of us “evolved” males, we who don’t even conceive of violence, often the message that gets across is that if there’s work to be done, the woman will take care of it. Objection: it’s not true, now men also help around the house. Certain. But it is almost never a division of tasks, it is help to someone who, due to an ancient and deep-rooted culture, must do that job. The male “helps”, amidst everyone’s applause. The good dad goes with his children to the amusement park, to the match. And maybe, who knows, he projects his own self-image onto his son, he wants him to be good at sports, he gets angry with him when he comes home from school crying, because it’s a sign of weakness.
Women, let it always be said in general, just want their children to be happy. We’ll get there later. First, we want them to be strong above all. Is not the same thing.
I’m not sure if all this has to do with the atrocities we are reporting these days. But I know we men have a wicked trick. We always shift the focus of femicides to mercy and not responsibility. Otherwise, we would be forced to ask ourselves questions. And let no man ever question himself. It’s a women’s thing.
November 21, 2023 (modified November 22, 2023 | 08:11)
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