2024-02-11 08:22:29
Self-confidence proves to be crucial to the effectiveness of two employees of the same ability
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Self-confident people advance faster in the profession and climb higher in the service hierarchy. Surely you do not doubt this statement. Career development experts who have spent years researching successful leaders and employees say there are at least 10 phrases that are completely foreign to them. This is precisely the reason why these people do not allow anything to stop them and achieve their goals with determination.
Most of the phrases are negative. You’ve probably heard a million times that negative thinking is a confidence killer. You can’t grow if you approach everything with a pre-set mindset of failure.
The confident person does not say “This is not fair” neither in voice nor in mind. He knows that life is usually not fair. He doesn’t complain that he put in the effort, but success slipped away, or that he didn’t get praise from his boss. He just sets out again to achieve results and is sure that next time he will succeed because he believes in his strengths and abilities.
“I hate my job” not his phrase either. If he finds he hates the job, he starts looking for a new one. If the circumstances force him not to change his job right now, he does not get upset, but tries to achieve the maximum. Meanwhile, he does not fail to look around for a position in which he will be satisfied. Anything else will only slow it down on the way up.
As you say “I have no other choice”, you don’t have enough confidence in yourself. There are always many opportunities, you have to look for them. By telling yourself that there isn’t, you limit your own thinking.
Never tell yourself and “It is impossible”, without thinking 100 times. Difficulties are challenges that a self-confident person does not shy away from, but finds a way to overcome.
“I can not do it” means to admit that you do not have the necessary knowledge, experience, strength. But if it really is, make an effort to acquire them. Build your confidence by starting to say “I can do it”. Over time, you will believe that you are capable of achieving anything you ask for, personal development experts advise. If you need proof to brag, make a list of all the things you’ve mastered and overcome. There are probably enough examples in your life that you can overcome any challenge.
From the same series is the harmful phrase “I do not know how”. Remember something elementary – you didn’t know how to walk, but you learned. You didn’t know the letters, but you started reading. And you couldn’t drive, and everything about your current profession was unknown to you, but you made an effort and mastered it. When you look at life like that, it turns out that everything you’ve ever done took some time to learn. So is the next thing you tackle. In short, if you don’t know how, find out. Or find someone who knows to help you. The most successful people believe that they must constantly improve themselves, seek new knowledge and skills, because they are the way to achieve more.
“I should have done it another way” is a phrase that you can say and immediately after it articulate what that other way is. That way you will have learned from the mistake. Just berating yourself is not productive and destroys your confidence.
“I do not have enough time” is an excuse for those who are mostly lazy or indecisive. People who believe in themselves set priorities and strive to achieve them even at the cost of deprivation.
Some affirmations are also quite dangerous.
For example “It’s done this way” makes you loop. The more open your mind is, the more easily you accept the new, the more chances you have for success. If you often think you know exactly how to do things, your self-confidence has reached a level where it is already hurting you. In other words, you have forgotten yourself.
Thinking that your colleagues or competitors are stupid and incompetent does not show a healthy dose of self-confidence. They are more likely to be intelligent enough to recognize the same opportunities as you, and capable enough to strive to capitalize on them. Underestimating them will slow you down because it means you haven’t taken the objective situation into account.
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