2024-04-22 05:33:09
Two basic attitudes are needed. The rest is learning
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And for some it seems like magic – they start a new job or find themselves at a party with strangers and in no time become the center of the company. They are not bosses, they are not the smartest, the strongest, the most beautiful, but they become leaders without knowing how they do it.
Psychologists admit that this requires a certain amount of innate talent. (Born to be a leader or born to be a follower.) But personal development experts say you can also learn leadership skills. Must to have the guts, desire and willingness to put in the effort.
You don’t have to be a boss to be a team leader. But if your colleagues see you as an authority, it’s likely that bigger bosses will soon offer you a higher position. (This is a “life saver” in case When you hate your boss but love your job.)
Don’t believe the myth that you need a job. If you’re waiting to find yourself in a place or position that will push you into leadership responsibilities, you may be waiting a long time. Leadership is not something that happens to you, it is something that you dorepeat the experts.
They think you will find out if you can become first the informal center of the team and then get a managerial position by checking your attitudes.
There are two foundations on which you will build leadership qualities.
It’s the first one have a desire to help people be better at what they do. It is your inner motivation that will attract your colleagues. If this basic attitude of self-giving doesn’t exist, no matter how hard you try to improve your personal skills, you won’t get others to recognize you as the center of the team.
Most people are capable as professionals, but their ambitions are tied to their own advancement. Few are those who think beyond themselves, about the whole, about creating a work atmosphere that leads to success. And this is precisely the initially necessary quality of a leader.
Is it missing, a person can become a chief, but by position. He will order, his subordinates will perform, but they will not consider him a leader, because he does not help them become better at what they do, but manages them.
The second foundation of leadership is the trust. It is created with integrity.
It doesn’t matter what you do and what position you are in. If your attitude is to consider not only your interests, but also your colleagues, to be responsible, to fulfill your promises, to show respect and empathy, you have a chance to win their trust.
Misanthropes (people who don’t love their neighbors), egoists, and those who tend to cheat at the expense of others cannot be recognized as leaders, no matter how many leadership techniques they study.
If you think about your past experience as a working person, you will see the difference between a leader and a boss. You must have been bossed around. You may have had a colleague who you and everyone else saw as an informal leader. It is less likely that you have had a superior who you felt was a real leader, not just an appointee.
It is because of the two basic attitudes in question that many people think they have, but in practice it turns out not to be true. And because of another thing, which, however, is more of an innate quality.
Experts say that leadership skills can be learned by building on self-giving and integrity, but intuition helps tremendously. It is precisely because of her that some people seem to have the talent of leaders.
They are born leaders situational sensors, as specialists Rob Goffey and Gareth Jones call them. They can collect and interpret the information from the environment in the right way, recognize details and signals, read the non-verbal signs that others leave in order to choose the right moment and the best course of action.
This is called intuition, and in born leaders it is stronger than in others.
However, if you don’t think that’s the case, don’t assume you’ll never become a leader. Intuition is not just a sixth sense, it develops with experience. And again, you have to use it properly – not only in your own interest. (How to harness intuition to achieve success.)
Therefore, experts say that it is important, but not basic. Those two attitudes remain fundamental – helping others become better at what they do and building trust with your integrity.
— What to do to get recognized —
To be accepted as a leader, you must change your mindset.
● You are not a leader because you are unwilling to do what it takes to become a leader. Your performance at work is a reflection of your thoughts.
● Stop waiting for permission to start driving. Leadership does not require age or a specific level of experience.
Recognize the qualities and strengths that lie within you, give yourself the confidence that you can manifest them. If you don’t show them, your colleagues won’t recognize them.
● The most common reason a person fails to become a leader is the fear of stepping out of the status quo.
It is understandable – people are social animals. Everyone tends to stick to the herd way of thinking and behaving, afraid to shake the established norms and hierarchies in order to stand out from the rest, because there is a risk that this will also lead to his ostracism from the herd. (And the fear of disapproval is scary.) But a characteristic of a leader is that he is ready to take risks as well. No one becomes a leader by following the crowd.
● One of the most important qualities of a leader is the ability to accept the fact that sometimes his ideas are not the best and to listen to the suggestions of others.
However, you can’t listen to everyone’s advice, it’s a waste of time. To be a leader, you have to learn who to listen to and who to ignore. You must learn and balance between steadfastness in defending what you firmly believe to be right and wisdom in accepting other people’s suggestions that you judge to be the best.
● Being a leader among your colleagues does not mean being a chameleon or a hypocrite who conforms and always agrees with them.
Constructive criticism is at the heart of being a leader. You remember that the one basic condition is that you want to help them get better at what they do. In practice, it means helping them see their mistakes and rethink their approach. If you’re a bossy leader, employees need feedback even more to know exactly what they’re doing well and what they’re not doing so well.
Feedback is a valuable guidance and success tool that reinforces your position as a leader.
● No man is without sin, but the strong man does not hide his faults. Colleagues or subordinates will only recognize you as a leader if you are not afraid to tell yourself when you are wrong and apologize if necessary.
This goes into the second basic condition of leadership – integrity and trust. It builds a deeper connection between you and others.
● Don’t settle for “good enough” if you want to be an authority at work. Show that you are ready to do whatever it takes to achieve the best possible result, be an example of commitment and motivation.
It is the leader who sets the direction and pace. It’s even more mandatory if you’re also a boss.
● Celebrate the achievements of your colleagues. Everyone wants to perform well, and when they do, they expect recognition. Not only from your supervisor, but also from your colleagues in the team. Sometimes being the person who always notes the contributions of others is enough to be accepted as a leader.
● Never neglect your self-control. The situation may be a crisis, but colleagues will accept you as a leader if you coolly help the team to act and cope. (In the heat of the moment, act like a boss to become a boss.)
It’s human to lose your temper when someone makes you angry. But anger, hysteria, screams are not distinctive features of a leader. Learn to control your emotions and try to think carefully about your words before you speak them. (Anger management techniques when you get really angry at work.)
● Be open – when someone needs your help, leave the work you are doing at the moment, look your colleague in the eye and focus on what he is saying to you.
● Only the one who treats everyone in the office with respect, regardless of their position, is recognized as an authority and a leader. (For the unconscious biases that get in the way of success, please read here)
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Unexpected disasters from a visionary boss and a micromanager
How Luck Syndrome Affects Career Success
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How to raise your mental immunity for career success