Singer Ben revealed why he decided to divorce six months after giving birth.
Ben appeared on TV Chosun’s ‘Now I’m Alone’, which aired on the 12th, and talked about his current situation, including divorced after giving birth to his daughter and living as a single mother.
Ben said, “(I and my ex-husband) got along well for a year, but as things started happening one by one, friction arose,” and “So we argued a lot and a lot of things happened.” He continued, “I felt like I had become a very easy person. I thought to myself, ‘I didn’t fall in love for this reason. “I thought a lot, ‘If I had done this, you shouldn’t have done this to me,’” he said.
Although there was conflict with her ex-husband, Ben, who had been trying to have a child, decided to divorce six months after giving birth. She cited ‘my ex-husband’s lies’ as the reason for her divorce.
Ben said, “I hated lying. “Trust was completely destroyed,” he said. “I felt like I couldn’t stay married any longer after having the baby.” He then revealed the reason why he decided to divorce, saying, “After having a child and going through a lot, I gained courage. I am a person who has to make the baby happy, and I wanted to show only the good things.”
Ben revealed that he also suffered from depression after his divorce. “I lived a very miserable life,” he said, shedding tears as he said, “During my 14 years of entertainment, I thought, ‘I guess I’m really healthy and strong,’ but it was so hard.”
He continued, “(Overcoming depression) wasn’t as easy as I thought. I wasn’t there at that time. It just died completely. I thought I would never return to my original place. “The condition was that bad,” he added.
Ben, who is divorced but sees his ex-husband once every two weeks for the sake of the child, said, “Now we talk and discuss the child,” adding, “The child likes his father. At first, I felt very sorry as I saw the child running happily to his father. I also like to walk while holding my grandma and grandpa’s hand. “I thought it would be great to go to an amusement park later,” he said.
Ben also expressed his desire to work as a singer in the future. He said, “I was happiest when I was singing,” and “I want to go back to my place, work, and live a happy life. “For my daughter,” he said.
Ben debuted with the group Bebe Mignon in 2010 and worked as a solo singer in 2012. She married her ex-husband, W Foundation Chairman Lee Wook, in 2021, and divorced three years later.
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Interview: A Conversation with Singer Ben on Personal Trials and Triumphs
Time.news Editor: Welcome, Ben! It’s an honor to have you here today. Your recent appearance on TV Chosun’s “Now I’m Alone” has certainly caught a lot of attention. You opened up about your experiences after your divorce and your journey as a single mother. To start, could you share what prompted you to come forward with your story now?
Ben: Thank you for having me! I felt it was important to share my story because I believe many people go through similar struggles, especially after becoming parents. I realized that my experiences could resonate with others who might feel alone in their challenges.
Time.news Editor: That makes a lot of sense. You mentioned that your relationship with your ex-husband started well, but eventually, things changed. What were some of the turning points that led to the friction in your marriage?
Ben: Well, it can be quite complex. We had a wonderful first year, but as life went on, we faced challenges that created tension between us. Arguments became more frequent, and ultimately, I realized I was no longer the person I wanted to be. I kept thinking, “Did I fall in love for this?”
Time.news Editor: It sounds emotionally taxing. Could you elaborate on the circumstances surrounding your decision to divorce just six months after giving birth?
Ben: Of course. The trust in our relationship shattered after I discovered my ex-husband’s lies. I hated dishonesty and felt that after having our child, I needed to prioritize my happiness and well-being. I wanted to create a positive environment for my daughter, and I felt I couldn’t do that in my marriage.
Time.news Editor: That must have been incredibly tough. You also mentioned suffering from depression after the divorce. Can you tell us how you coped with that?
Ben: Honestly, it was one of the hardest periods of my life. I had always thought I was strong and resilient, but the reality hit me hard. I felt lost and like I would never return to a healthy state. Overcoming the depression took more time and effort than I initially expected; it was a real struggle.
Time.news Editor: It’s brave of you to share that struggle. Now that you’re navigating co-parenting, how has your relationship with your ex-husband evolved?
Ben: We’ve made progress. We talk regularly for the sake of our child, and while it was tough at first seeing my daughter run to her father, I’ve come to accept it. She deserves to have a loving relationship with both parents, and I strive to focus on that.
Time.news Editor: That’s really commendable. Switching gears a bit, how are you planning to balance your personal life and your career as a singer moving forward?
Ben: Music has always been my passion. I want to return to it not just for myself but for my daughter. Singing brings me joy and fulfillment, and I hope to show her that pursuing what you love is important. I aim to work hard and find that happiness again.
Time.news Editor: It’s heartwarming to see your resilience and dedication. Before we wrap up, do you have any message for fans or individuals going through similar situations?
Ben: I want them to know they’re not alone. Life can throw unexpected challenges our way, but it’s essential to focus on what truly matters: our well-being and happiness, especially for the sake of our children. It’s okay to seek help and take time for oneself.
Time.news Editor: Thank you, Ben, for sharing such personal insights with us today. Your journey is inspiring, and we look forward to seeing you thrive in your music and personal life!
Ben: Thank you! I appreciate the support.