On March 12, 1995, the arranged marriage of Oscar Award winning singer AR Rahman and Saira Banu took place. Both have two daughters Khatija-Rahima and a son Amin. But, now after 29 years of marriage, both AR Rahman and Saira Banu are going to separate. According to AR Ehman, his mother had fixed the marriage with Saira. But their marriage is falling apart due to ’emotional strain’.
Actually Saira Banu has announced divorce from her husband on Tuesday night. On the other hand, AR Rahman has also posted on X and thanked for giving privacy in this critical time. The singer’s fans are very saddened by the news of this divorce. But, this is the right time for you to understand what emotional stress is and how it can be dealt with. So that we can get a chance to save the broken relationship. (Photo courtesy: Instagram @@arrahman)
Saira worried about ’emotional strain’
Let us tell you that Saira Banu’s lawyer Vandana Shah, while giving a statement on behalf of her client, wrote that after many years of marriage, Mrs. Saira has decided to separate from her husband AR Rahman. The reason for this is emotional strain in the relationship. Despite immense love, both of them found that this tension had created a gulf between them. Saira also emphasized that this decision has been taken due to the pain present in the relationship.
Marriage did not last even 30 years
Singer AR Ehman has also expressed his pain through a post on Instagram. He wrote, it was expected that we would complete 30 years. But, it seems that everything has an unseen end. Even the throne of God can tremble under the weight of broken hearts. Still, we find meaning in this fragmentation, even if the pieces can never find their place again. During this, he also thanked the fans for respecting their privacy.
Know what is ’emotional strain’
The reason for AR Rehman and Saira Banu’s divorce is ’emotional strain’. It is important for every couple and person to understand. In fact, when increasing distance becomes the cause of stress in a relationship, it is called emotional strain. There can be many reasons for this like communication gap, increasing suspicion due to lack of trust etc.
Apart from this, lost trust in a relationship is the most common cause of stress. Excessive expectations and then their non-fulfillment also becomes the reason. Stress increases due to different things going on in the relationship.
How to deal with emotional strain
According to the report of Reid Health, to fight ’emotional strain’ you will have to talk. It simply means that if you do not tell the problem then how will the solution be possible. In such a situation, open communication in any relationship is a sign of a strong relationship. Unless you tell your partner what you are feeling, it will be difficult to find a solution. If you are separated from your partner, then talk to your friends and relatives.
To get yourself out of this difficult time, you will have to divert your mind. If you keep thinking about the same thing, more negative thoughts will start coming to your mind. In such a situation, it would be better if you concentrate on social media, internet or any physical activity.
To get out of the pain, you have to know yourself and what you have. No pain can be so great that it can overpower you. Here you will also find some people who love you, maybe your thinking about your partner may change or you may want to give them a chance to make everything right.
How can couples improve communication to reduce emotional strain?
Title: Understanding Emotional Strain: An Interview with Dr. Priya Mehta, Relationship Expert
Editor (Time.news): Good morning, everyone! Today, we have a sensitive yet important topic to discuss following the recent news of the separation of renowned musician AR Rahman and his wife Saira Banu after nearly three decades of marriage. Joining me to delve into this topic is Dr. Priya Mehta, a respected psychologist and relationship expert. Thank you for being here, Dr. Mehta.
Dr. Priya Mehta: Thank you for having me. It’s a pleasure to discuss such a vital topic today.
Editor: Let’s start by addressing the news itself. AR Rahman has been a beloved figure, and this announcement has shocked many. Emotional strain seems to be a significant factor in their decision to separate. Can you explain what emotional strain is in the context of a marriage?
Dr. Mehta: Absolutely. Emotional strain refers to the mental and emotional pressure that builds up in relationships due to unresolved conflicts, unmet needs, or differing values. In long-term relationships, especially after many years of marriage, couples may find themselves drifting apart. This emotional distance can become so pronounced that it creates a tangible gulf between partners, as seen in AR Rahman and Saira Banu’s case.
Editor: You mentioned that this strain can be a result of unresolved conflicts. What are some common issues that might lead to this emotional wear and tear in a marriage?
Dr. Mehta: There are several factors that can contribute to emotional strain. Communication breakdown is one of the most common. As life progresses, roles and responsibilities change—children grow up, careers evolve, and personal priorities shift. Couples may find it difficult to communicate these changes effectively. Other factors include stress from external sources—like work pressures or financial issues—and significant life events, such as loss or health challenges, which can exacerbate existing tensions within the relationship.
Editor: In Saira Banu’s statement, it was emphasized that despite immense love, emotional tension became overwhelming. How can couples navigate this paradox of love and emotional strain?
Dr. Mehta: That’s a poignant point. Love is often not enough to sustain a relationship if the emotional needs of both partners are unmet. Couples should prioritize open communication—discussing feelings regularly and addressing issues as they arise is crucial. Also, seeking external help, like couples therapy, can provide tools and strategies to cope with emotional strain. It’s about creating a safe space for both partners to express their concerns freely.
Editor: It appears that AR Rahman expressed regret about not reaching the milestone of 30 years together. How important are these milestones, and do they influence a relationship’s dynamics?
Dr. Mehta: Milestones can have significant emotional weight in a relationship. They often serve as markers of stability and commitment. When couples approach these milestones, they may reflect on their journey and reassess their relationship. If they have experienced ongoing emotional strain, these reflections can bring underlying issues to the forefront, sometimes leading to hard conversations about the future.
Editor: Given this situation, what would your advice be to couples facing similar emotional strain?
Dr. Mehta: Communication is key. I would advise couples to engage in heartfelt discussions about their feelings and to approach these conversations without blame. Additionally, they should work on fostering empathy—understanding each other’s perspectives can help bridge gaps in communication. Seeking professional guidance can also be incredibly beneficial for navigating emotional difficulties.
Editor: Thank you, Dr. Mehta. This has been an insightful conversation. As we reflect on AR Rahman and Saira Banu’s decision, may we all learn the importance of addressing emotional health within our relationships before they reach a critical point of strain.
Dr. Mehta: Thank you for having me, and I hope this conversation resonates with those who may be experiencing similar challenges.
Editor: Thank you to our audience for joining us today. Remember, it’s crucial to prioritize emotional well-being in our relationships. Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other.