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“White roses are Su’s favorite flower. Just like her, she always gives everyone a noble and gentle image.”
Luo Yunong recalled Su Qingyi like this, but white roses are also fragile and delicate with thorns everywhere.
The TV series “Hua Deng Chu Shang” begins with the mystery of Su Qingyi’s (Su’s mother) death, and leaves two big mysteries in the second season: why is she so experienced that she is disgusted everywhere? Why is Yunong, who is in love with her sister, the object of her hatred?
If we focus on Su Qingyi’s character, can we unearth some clues from a theoretical point of view, and try to understand more deeply how this character’s character development is related to her growth experience?
Why is Su with thorns?Distinguish “sensitive” vs “insensitive” personality in details
According to research, almost one out of every five people in the world has the trait of “high sensitivity”, accounting for about 15-20% of the total population.
– Elaine N. Aron, American psychologist
“High sensitivity” is a concept proposed by American psychologist Dr. Aron in 1996 to describe emotionA more delicate, anxious, yet thoughtful personality. This kind of personality is not good or bad, and it is not limited to the introverted group. Most importantly, this is not a disease, but just as “trait” manifests differently from person to person.Almost all are innate, although some scholars believe that it may also be influenced by the environment in which they were raised.
Taiwanese scholars have further researched that women are usually more sensitive to negative evaluations in social environments, and the Chinese group culture also deepens the pressure of highly sensitive groups. Su Qingyi in “The Beginning of Hua Deng” is a clear example of a highly sensitive personality. The following will use the performance of “Su” in the play to understand the “four common characteristics of sensitive personality”.
Online Quiz｜High Sensitivity Self-Assessment Scale (HSP)
*The test results cannot fully explain all the personalities of the subjects, and the current mood will also affect the results for reference only.
Perspective of “Su”‘s Heart – 4 Common Sensitive Personality Traits
After more in-depth research, Dr. Ai Rong further integrated the four characteristics of the sensitive personality DOSE to explain what high sensitivity is. However, it should be noted that the following characteristics are only the characteristics of the highly sensitive family in the study, and the following characteristics are consistent with the following The characteristics are not necessarily high sensitivity!
Trait 1｜Depth of processing
Su Qingyi is always in charge of confirming all the accounts of the Japanese-style hotel “Hikaru”. She is the last one to leave every night, so when guests make troubles, they can always make big and small matters small. Rose’s mother also mentioned that she seldom checks accounts because Su always does a good job.
Often work with highly sensitive people, can appreciate their excellent work ability. High-sensitivity people often think, so that they can observe their surroundings more thoroughly and think more maturely. Therefore, they have the ability to deal with complex problems and understand over-age vocabulary. All in all, deploying ahead of time and thinking about multi-layered issues at the same time is one of the characteristics of the highly sensitive family, not a manifestation of indecision. Su’s tactility and Su’s delicacy are exactly why she is popular at the “Hikari” Japanese-style hotel.
Trait 2｜Easy to stimulate Overstimulation
Su invests her delicate emotions in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and is proficient in everything. She is a talented girl in the play. “The borrowed book must be returned no matter what, because it’s not yours, it’s borrowed. You borrowed it from me, right?” Su Qingyi could tell from Jiang Han’s behavior that he didn’t love her, so he The first encounter scene metaphor, euphemistically. Finally, at the birthday party, when Luo Yunong and Jiang Han sang together, they accidentally broke the wine glass.
Because the psychological feelings of highly sensitive people are very detailed, they are more likely to receive external noise: such as physical light, noise and weather, etc.; or psychologically the emotions of others, external pressure, and fear of causing trouble to others , Worry about not performing well, are the reasons for the discomfort of highly sensitive people. However, this also reflects their focus on the details of life and their motivation to pursue the quality of life. Su’s delicacy made her popular, but it was also the sharp blade that cut her heart. Luo Yunong, Jiang Han…Every move of others made her heart bleed.
Trait 3｜Emotional Reactivity and Empathy
“It’s good to be dead, it’s best if you really die. The one that dies is forever, because it can’t be recovered, the dead will be sealed in the memory, and the longer the memory is, the more beautiful it will be, and I will poke you from time to time. , so that you can’t help but miss.” “Kill me, kill me, will you remember me forever?” Su Qingyi was obviously very excited when she was emotionally stimulated.
Because highly sensitive people have higher triggers of various emotions than ordinary people, they may cry, be afraid of surprises, easily startle, or have a greater reaction to things in daily life. However, such traits are not only negative, as they can be great mind listeners or caring partners. As Su has always been Luo Yunong’s good best friend and business partner, she can listen to her big and small things, but is rarely the one who takes the initiative to share her thoughts.
Trait 4｜Sensing the Subtle
Su Qingyi’s intonation and noise of the microphone, the noisy chattering and laughter of the ladies, and the taste discrimination of wine aroma are all the most sensitive and excellent among the characters.
This may also be an alternative skill. The observation and acuity of life make it easier for highly sensitive people to detect small changes, especially perceptual feelings, such as differences in taste, errors in digital financial report data, and deviations in pitch, etc. Wait, it varies from person to person. However, they are also more prone to fatigue due to prolonged periods of intense concentration and stress. Su’s sensitivity to subtleties enables her to manage “light” in an elegant and noble way, and guests who come to Japanese-style hotels can always find spiritual release.
How to get along with the “Su” around you? – Sensitivity can be a gift
As the plot progresses, we can perceive Su Qingyi’s sensitivity partly due to the influence of his growth experience. If we could go back to Su’s past, or if there were highly sensitive people like Su around you and me, how could we get along with him and prevent our sensitive “talent” from turning into a “stumbling block”? The following four major approaches are proposed:
- Method 1｜Understanding you and me, establishing relationship boundaries
Before the word “high sensitivity” appeared, sensitive people were often misunderstood as timid, introverted, and neurotic. However, when we can understand that most of these traits are innate and related to past experiences, they will be more cautious in handling affairs. Be careful; and instead seeing their strengths and not stepping on the lines of protection they have set up outside will be the way to work with them.
- Approach 2 | Communicate and differentiate the level of dialogue
When talking with them, you can distinguish whether you need “shallow dialogue” or “deep communication” according to the events under discussion, so that you can have a dialogue with each other in the most appropriate state. For example, inform in advance “what is right and wrong”, “this matter is mainly about the part I want to discuss…”, so as to avoid too much noise and excessive emotional operation.
- Method 3 | Take appropriate breaks and set the stop-loss button
American human development professor Marwa Azab has pointed out that moderate rest is necessary for highly sensitive groups. Because their emotions or perceptions are received like a sieve with greater density, they are more prone to stress and emotional overload, so if both parties can set a stop loss point for progress, such as temporal (end of half an hour), content (to the end of the section), or linear (without personal attacks), etc., would be more efficient and mutually comfortable approaches.
- Method 4 | Protect each other and clarify their positions
In the process of interaction, not only for the highly sensitive people, we also need to pay attention to our own state at all times, and we don’t need to be completely immersed in the current situation. There is no need to pay too much attention to the emotions of highly sensitive people, which leads to giving in everything and making compromises. It is still necessary to have an effective dialogue and reach a consensus on the premise of mutual comfort, which is the way to long-term coexistence!
References
- Xie Yazhu (2020). Exploring the psychological process of highly sensitive people in the experience of interpersonal interaction: a second-wave positive psychology perspective. Unpublished master’s thesis, Department of Psychology and Counseling, National Taipei University of Education, Taipei.
- Translated by Lu Yingxuan (2017). High sensitivity is a kind of talent: affirming one’s own uniqueness, feeling more, imagining more, creating more (original author: Ilse, Sand Naganuma Mutsuo). Taipei City, Sancai Culture.
- Translated by Xiao Yunjing (2018). Unlocking the Talents of Highly Sensitive Children: 41 Parenting, Care, and Companion Proposals from Child Psychiatrists to Parents of Highly Sensitive Children (Original author: Mutsuo Naganuma). Taipei City, Sancai.
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