San Diego, California, ultimately captured the heart of a traveler seeking the perfect blend of vibrant city life and accessible natural beauty, a quest that led them away from the bustling political scene of Washington, D.C., and through several other American cities.
A quest for an ideal living situation led a recent graduate from Washington, D.C., on a multi-city tour, culminating in a discovery of the perfect balance in San Diego.
- A search for a more relaxed lifestyle led to exploring cities like Taos, Santa Fe, Denver, and Long Beach.
- Each city offered unique draws but ultimately fell short of meeting all desired criteria.
- San Diego provided the longed-for mix of culture, nature, and a relaxed yet vibrant atmosphere.
The journey began in Washington, D.C., after graduate school, where the expectation of comfort clashed with reality. The sprawling nature and relaxed work-life balance found in places like Italy and Nepal were missed, replaced by a focus on work talk at happy hours.
After three years, a remote job in 2020 prompted a departure from D.C. to find a new home. This search involved living in multiple American cities for at least a month each.
New Mexico’s Nature Beckoned, But Cities Felt Too Quiet
The initial exploration led to Taos, New Mexico, drawn by its mountainous terrain and red desert landscapes. The natural beauty was captivating, with opportunities for hiking among pine trees and spotting mountain goats. Friendly locals shared tips for camping and local history.
However, with a population under 7,000, Taos felt too tranquil. Seeking more activity, the next stop was Santa Fe, the state capital. Santa Fe offered similar scenic beauty, with enjoyable hikes at Picacho Peak and Atalaya Mountain, and a rich arts scene including galleries, the Georgia O’Keeffe Museum, and the interactive Meow Wolf museum.
Denver Offered Amenities, But Altitude Was a Challenge
The search continued to Denver, Colorado. The city boasted stunning mountains, numerous breweries, and an appealing outdoorsy culture. Its population, eight times that of Santa Fe, provided the desired urban energy, and friendships there made it easy to envision settling down.
However, the high altitude proved difficult, causing breathing issues during morning runs as November weather turned colder. A general lack of interest in skiing or snowboarding also made the prospect of a snowy Denver winter unappealing.
California’s Coastline Appealed, But Traffic Was a Deterrent
The journey then shifted to the West Coast, specifically Long Beach, California, where palm trees and ocean views became a reality. The city’s nightlife and diverse food scene were also appealing.
Yet, the desire for more nature remained. A breakwater prevented waves from reaching Long Beach shores, hindering surfing. Accessing other beaches and hiking trails in nearby Orange County required navigating significant traffic. The constant battling of dense traffic eventually diminished the enjoyment of the California coast, prompting another move in search of easier access to nature.
San Diego: The Perfect Harmony of City and Nature
Upon arriving in San Diego, an instant feeling of home settled in. The city offered a compelling balance: the calm energy missed from D.C. and the vibrant city atmosphere sought elsewhere. It was a place with much to experience, yet it fostered a sense of relaxation.
The casual environment was evident even in upscale restaurants, where a mix of attire was common. San Diego felt like a place where one could simply exist comfortably, signaling that the search had ended.
Four years later, the palm trees at San Diego International Airport remain a welcome sight upon returning from trips. The city’s relaxed vibe is a constant comfort, complemented by its status as a metropolis of over a million residents.
Year-round access to nature, including beaches and trails like Mission Beach and Cowles Mountain, is a significant draw. The cultural offerings, from beaches to museums and nightlife, can be enjoyed without work-related pressure.
New discoveries, such as Cuyamaca Rancho State Park just an hour away, continue to surface. While the idea of a “forever home” is uncertain, the move to San Diego has been a source of great satisfaction.
