LONDON, January 21, 2026 — Brooklyn Beckham, son of David and Victoria Beckham, publicly announced his estrangement from his family this week, citing a desire to break free from what he described as “performative social media posts, family events and inauthentic relationships.” The decision highlights a surprisingly common, and often painful, dynamic: family estrangement.
The Rising Tide of Family Rifts
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Estrangement—the voluntary severing of ties with family members—affects a significant number of families, often stemming from abuse, differing values, or the introduction of new partners into the mix.
- Family estrangement is more prevalent than many realize, impacting at least one in five families in the UK.
- Disagreements over a child’s partner are a frequent catalyst for rifts.
- Experts emphasize the importance of empathy and communication in healing fractured relationships.
- Estrangement can be a healthy option when one party consistently denies the other’s perspective.
Although the Beckhams navigate a life psychotherapist Becca Bland calls a “unicorn life” with “extraordinary features,” the underlying causes of family estrangement are often relatable. Bland, an expert on the subject, notes that abuse, new partners, and irreconcilable differences in morals, values, and beliefs are typical drivers of these painful separations.
Common Causes and the Role of Values
Research from Stand Alone, a charity founded by Bland, indicates that at least one in five families in the United Kingdom have experienced estrangement. In the United States, approximately 10% of mothers are estranged from at least one adult child, while over 40% of people report having experienced some form of estrangement.
Brooklyn Beckham’s situation, according to Bland, was compounded by a feeling that he “doesn’t have the same values” as his parents, and that his fame was “given…without permission.” A parent’s insensitive reaction to a child’s partner is also an “incredibly common” source of rupture, she added.
When is Estrangement the Healthiest Option?
While healing requires open communication, experts agree that continued denial of another’s perspective can make estrangement the healthiest path forward. Lucy Blake, a psychology researcher at the University of West of England who has written a book on family estrangement, emphasizes that there’s no “normal” parent-child relationship. Estrangement manifests differently for everyone, ranging from complete no-contact to limited interaction.
Blake cautions against therapists prematurely recommending cutting off contact, advocating for “non-directive therapy” in the UK—an approach that doesn’t steer clients toward a specific decision. Therapy is most effective, she says, when estrangement isn’t presented as a one-size-fits-all solution. Support systems and protection from abusive dynamics are crucial factors in determining whether therapy is beneficial.
Lowri Dowthwaite-Walsh, a family psychotherapist at the University of Central Lancashire, has observed a growing awareness among patients regarding therapeutic concepts like emotional abuse and boundary-setting. However, she warns against using these labels “flippantly.”
Estrangement is “often the last resort,” Dowthwaite-Walsh explains, reserved for situations involving extreme behaviors like ongoing abuse, substance abuse, or coercive control—where the offending party shows no understanding of the harm they inflict. Setting boundaries—limiting meeting locations, time spent together, or conversation topics—can be a more helpful first step.
The Beckhams’ situation mirrors a common pattern of children in their late 20s asserting independence, a stage known as emerging adulthood. Dowthwaite-Walsh also notes that problems often arise within family businesses, creating a “cult type way of being” where individuals feel trapped, particularly due to financial ties. Often, a “cycle breaker”—like Brooklyn Beckham or Prince Harry—rebels against maintaining appearances, frequently choosing a partner who challenges the family’s established beliefs.
Considering the Consequences
Debbie Keenan, a psychotherapist, advises clients contemplating estrangement to carefully consider the consequences, including potential lack of support, social stigma, and backlash from other family members. She acknowledged Brooklyn Beckham’s courage in speaking out, suggesting he is prioritizing his partner. Keenan believes all parties involved will likely experience a grieving process and urged the Beckhams to reflect on the root causes of the rift—perhaps a parent’s tendency to value a child’s success for its impact on their own reputation—to avoid “the ripples” of this conflict affecting future generations.
