2024-02-17 07:18:42
It doesn’t matter who is to blame for the situation, the anger is born in you and you are the ones who shouldn’t let it
“The right person” is the new special project of “24 hours” about professional success, career growth, personal development, workplace relations, about good practices of employers, about news from the HR sector and management, about vacancies.
Lately, you’ve had plenty of occasions to feel angry at work because an unpleasant manager has fallen on your head. It’s not that others don’t have them every day in their work, but with you “on assignment” the occasions are more than usual.
Big topics to think about are why you think this person is unpleasant, is he really a bad manager, and if so, what to do to get out. But while you are thinking and deciding, it is imperative that you learn to manage your anger in order not to derail your career. It doesn’t matter who is to blame for the situation that annoys you. Maybe it’s the boss, but the anger is born in you and you’re the ones who shouldn’t let it. If you blow up, you show weakness. And what’s worse is that you’ll probably have to apologize afterwards.
There are coping techniques and it’s a good idea to apply them as soon as you feel rage.
o The good old “Count to 5” rule really helps. Count very slowly. If you’re still angry, go ahead – and 10 is a good number.
o Take 5-6 slow deep breathsconcentrating on the breath itself.
o Shift your body weight onto your left leg. Count to 5 and transfer it to the right one.
o Imagine that in this situation it is not you, but someone else. You are a bystander. This gives you an opportunity to distance yourself from your feelings. In many cases, you will come to the conclusion that it is not worth getting so attached.
o Rate your level of irritation on a scale of 1 to 10. Realize if you are angry, angry, or on the verge of an outburst. What to do next? Nothing. By the time you’ve been thinking about exactly where on the scale to place your feelings, you’ve already calmed down.
o Repeat to yourself as a mantra something that gives you self-confidence. Example: “I’m a calm person. I’m confident in myself. I have a good life and a wonderful family. And this will pass.”
o Carry a “patience stone”, since critical situations often occur that can throw you off balance. Any object pleasant to the touch is suitable. If it doesn’t make an impression, better. For example, choose a “soothing” pen that you naturally bring with you to meetings, or a smooth marble egg that you keep on your desk. Whenever you feel anger, touch your “patience stone”. It helps magically.
In “The right person” – the new special project of “24 hours”, you can read more:
Your boss can’t read minds, you tell yourself
Techniques to speed up your persuasiveness
When the boss scolds you, and the guilty colleague sneakily persists
A guide to surviving around a selfish colleague
Top 10 habits that you are pushing back at work without realizing it
Phrases that confident people never utter in front of their boss and colleagues
The harmful myths about success
3 boss mistakes, and the damage to you
The road to office hell is also paved with good intentions
When to win with dead fox tactics