Becoming parents or raising children is not easy and those who do this work can understand this very well. It is often seen that parents keep giving instructions to their children like what to do, what not to do, what to eat, where to go etc. Parents think that this is the way to impart good values and teach good habits to their children, whereas in reality it is not so.
Sadhguru Shri Riteshwar Maharaj has said in one of his sermons that the way to teach children is not to speak or instruct them but to do the work themselves. You yourself have to become what you want your child to be. The child learns by watching your actions.
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There is no use in telling the child anything.
Guruji said that no matter what you say to the child or how many lessons you teach him, the child will learn only what he sees you doing. The child does not learn your speech but observes your behavior and behaves in the same way as you do in front of him.
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don’t respect yourself
In a video shared on Instagram, Guruji is explaining his point with an example. He said, ‘You tell the child to wake up early in the morning and respect his parents. Whereas you yourself are shouting at your father while waking up in the morning and going to office. What effect will this behavior of your own father have on the child? Know further which habits parents can teach their child which are good and which the child can easily learn by watching them.
reading books
Reading a book is a good habit, but your child will not develop this habit just because you tell him to do so. You yourself will have to sit in front of him with the book and read it. Seeing you, the child will feel like reading the book himself. In this way, you will be able to develop the reading habit in your child by becoming a role model.
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respect for others
Suppose you tell your child that he should respect and honor everyone and you yourself shout at a servant of the house or insult him. In such a situation, your child will not learn to respect others by seeing you. You yourself will respect others, only then after seeing you your child will also develop this quality.
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don’t get angry
If you want your child to have a calm nature, not get angry and solve his problems with patience, then first you will have to inculcate these qualities in yourself. After this you do not need to teach anything to the child. He will learn automatically by watching you.
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