2024-04-10 23:41:38
nurture relationships
‘Our own are our own.’ But we are also asked to be happy by participating in the happiness of others. If any member of the family is happy about something good, then become a sharer of that happiness. Your happiness will increase manifold.
Although nowadays the concept of two children is decreasing, but many houses have two children. If your children learn to share things with each other, learn to participate in each other’s happiness, learn to cover each other’s mistakes.
If they learn to happily agree to something by planning among themselves, then it can be assumed that the parenting is going on in the right way. There is an atmosphere of happiness in the house and most importantly, learn to be happy by getting involved in their conversations and their plans.
Parents often put pressure on children regarding studies. If the marks are less then you get scolded. If the child is honest, hardworking and works smart, then there is more guarantee that he will surpass his parents in the future. Therefore, if you get 75-80 percent or less marks, celebrate it and encourage you to move ahead.
It is important to take time out
Nowadays, take money from people, but don’t take time. This shortage of time not only happens for the relatives, but now it has started happening for the family too. People do not have time even for their children and their parents. It often happens that due to not being able to give time to family due to office work, we remain deprived of many happy moments.
Try taking out one hour of time with your children sometime. Try talking to them. Just listen to their problems and needs. If you don’t smile 60 times in those 60 minutes, try again.
Perhaps the children are taking time to open up. Keep trying this. Once children learn to share their thoughts with you, it also becomes a sign of good parenting.
talks with elderly parents
The concept of nuclear family has increased the number of senior citizen homes. Many people relieve them of their responsibilities and send them to such homes. They deprive them of their rights.
Do not separate parents from themselves and their grandchildren. They see their own image in those children. Elderly people are also like children. They also become very happy on small things. If you sit with them and inquire about their well-being even for 5 minutes, then the speed of blood in their old veins increases and you get a separate satisfaction that you have known about the condition of your loved ones.
More needs, more conflict
If our needs are more and they are not fulfilled then we will definitely feel sad. There is a very old saying that poverty is often the cause of discord in any house. Due to financial constraints our choice of words often becomes wrong. Then the dispute increases. In such a situation, it is not possible to make yourself completely needless, but it is easy to reduce your needs. These lines of Rahim say a lot in themselves:
Affection lost, worry gone, heart is no longer bothered.
Those who want nothing, they are the breath of the bearer.
understand with example
If the needs are reduced, then the stress on the mind starts reducing because the expenses are reduced. This can be understood from each true incident. Suresh (name changed) has 2 children. Till 2 years ago, Suresh was teaching both the children in a big brand school.
If the name of the school was big, the fees were also high. Suresh had to pay a huge amount to the school every month or every three months. It was becoming very difficult for him to repay this amount. He would go into debt by a few thousand every time.
Often compromises had to be made on other household needs. We even had to think about giving clothes to children on their birthday and throwing a small party.
Due to such reasons, there was often discord in the house. This was affecting the children also. He had to listen to scolding without any reason. They also lived under stress. Suresh had discussed this issue with his wife many times, she was ready but used to postpone it thinking what people would say and Suresh also tacitly agreed to it.
Eventually the situation became such that Suresh’s debt increased significantly. Then Suresh and his wife started searching for a good school with low fees. Found a school of my choice. They got their child admitted there. The fees here were 50 percent less than the old school.
Now children are performing very well in class. Things are quite under control. Everyday stress has reduced. Now happiness has started to be found in small things.
What it means clearly is to reduce the needs. Don’t spend if it is not necessary. Develop a habit of savings so that when you need extra money, you do not have to ask from anyone. See, happiness will be with you inside the room.
being helpful
The happiness that one gets by feeding a hungry person or helping a needy person cannot be found in any other work. If you are interested in helping others then this can be a big reason for your happiness.
It is summer season. If you give cold water to those working in the sun – police, traffic police, rickshaw pullers, handcart drivers – you will see happiness on their faces. Just by keeping a bowl of water for the birds in the balcony, the balcony also starts chirping.
Apart from these, if you want, you can help needy children in education. It helps a lot in providing books, pens etc. to those who do not have access to them. Most of the elders come forward to help in education and health. If we help someone, we get blessings in abundance. These prayers are the storehouse of our happiness.
Keeping a hobby alive and being creative
At the same time, it is also true that every person is fond of something or the other. But in the battle to win life, one starts losing to oneself. People forget hobbies.
In such a situation, if the forgotten hobbies themselves come and say, why did you forget us? Come and make me yours again and the happiness from within overflows, just like an old ‘childhood’ friend or love suddenly appears in front of me, hello! Say give it. Therefore, the first step to bring happiness is not to forget hobbies, but to nurture them: songs, music, dance, anything.
Apart from these, if you are fond of creating anything and are missing it, then remember it well. The truth is that being creative gives inner happiness. Be it experimenting with something new in cooking or being fond of writing poetry. Try something new. The readings of happiness will increase a lot.