It is not easy to accept couple’s deathnor say goodbye to a life plan One day to another. Although life goes on, the mourning the death of a spouse It is one of the deepest wounds because the friend, lover and partner also leaves. Discover how to deal with the death of a partner: closing the wound as the last act of love.
Today the unfortunate death of Julián Figueroa was confirmed, at the age of 28, who is survived by his mother, Maribel Guardia, his wife, Imelda Garza Tunonhis six-year-old son José Julián and his siblings José Manuel, Juliana, Zarelea, Marcelina and Joana.
Through his Instagram account, his wife, Imelda Garza, issued an emotional message to say goodbye to his beloved and father of his son: “I love you forever. You are in a better place with your father and you leave me with a broken heart in a thousand pieces but with many happy memories and many laughs, fly high amore”, wrote Imelda.
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Why does it hurt so much when the couple dies?
Without a doubt, the death of a couple immerses us in a grieving process hard, stressful and painful because before the Life expectancy that we had, it is hard for us to understand that none of these plans will be carried out with our partner, therefore, the spouse bereavement requires strength and a lot of patience, describe specialists from the American Psysochomatic Society.
He grieving process it is very personal because not all of us process it in the same way. According to information from National Institute on Agingthe duel for the loss of a loved one It affects us at physical, emotional, cognitive, social and spiritual levels, depending on how strong the connection was, the reaction will be more or less intense.
The specialists describe that the duel consists of five stages:
- Denial
- Anger
- Negotiation
- Depression or sadness
- Acceptance
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Although not all of us go through each one of them, nor do we do it in the same order. Feelings of melancholy, depression, sadness, mood swings do occur, but also abandonment thoughts, guilt because we are still alive instead of the couple or for not having been able to do something else, hence the importance of working on the spouse bereavement.
How to overcome the pain of the death of your partner?
Get over the pain of your partner’s death It is not a quick process, you must accept the loss, suffer for it, adjust to your new life and get rid of the ‘energy of the deceased’, that is, feel ready to open your heart again at some point or relate to someone else .
Before the loss of partnerhe grieving process it becomes difficult because the one who lives does not always know how to move on, especially if he does not have the energy or the desire to overcome it. According to specialists at the Mayo Clinic Medical Institute, in some people, the feelings of loss they do not improve with the passage of time, giving way to complicated grief.
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There are some suggestions that can help advance grief recovery, including the following:
- Feel the sadness: when the couple passes away Many emotions arise, it is normal, a part of your life is lost. It is not recommended to suppress sadness, but to live it to advance healing.
- Grief as you need to: Take one day at a time and allow yourself to grieve at your own pace.
- Talk about your emotions: share your pain with other people, what you miss about your partner, your feelings of loss or loneliness to understand that the partner has left.
- Find a support network: approach those who care about your well-being or want to accompany you during the duel, seek professional help to control emotions.
- Celebrate your memories: it is not about forgetting, but about honoring your life, celebrating those moments you lived or remembering with peace, instead of crying to accept the loss of your partner.
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How long does the mourning for the death of your partner last?
He duel it is lived differently in each person, it is not a process that has a predetermined duration, since in some cases it can last weeks, months or even years. However, specialists suggest that it usually lasts around 18 months, when the pain or sadness persist, it is advisable to look for help of a professional.
Now that you know that the couple’s death is one of the most difficult losses, you could understand that each person reacts differently to grief, in the case of Imelda Garza, only she knows the pain so deep that she could have felt when writing the message with which she said goodbye to Julian Figueroahis life partner.
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