[돈의 심리] It is difficult to be considerate of others due to lack of mental and financial resources.
There is a hobby group that I participate in. There was a person who played many roles in the meeting, but one day he stopped attending the meeting. It wasn’t just that he didn’t show up to meetings, he even left group KakaoTalk rooms. We decided to go together on New Year’s Day, but canceled it, saying we couldn’t even go on the trip we had booked. This is something happening. I wondered if I had gotten into a fight with a group member and ended up leaving. However, it turns out that business has been really bad recently, so the flow of funds is not good, and I don’t have the mental or financial space to come to the meeting. This will not be a short-term difficulty. If it is a short-term problem, there is no need to leave the group KakaoTalk room. Leaving the group KakaoTalk room means that difficulties in business are having a significant impact on one’s life.
It’s a pity. He was a good person, but because of money issues, he stayed away from his hobbies and even cut off relationships with people. You will no longer be able to take care of the people around you that you used to take care of, and even the good image you have built up will be hurt. Money problems are not limited to simply not having money. This also affects human relationships.
Why men and women break up when they run out of money
This phrase appears in the novel ‘No Longer Human’ by famous Japanese writer Osamu Dazai.
“There is a proverb that says, ‘The day you run out of money is the day your relationship ends.’ However, this does not mean that a man will be abandoned by a woman when he runs out of money. When a man runs out of money, he becomes depressed, his smile becomes weak, and he becomes crooked. So, I end up breaking up with the woman.”
The woman was not with this man for the money. He was with me because he liked me and cared about me. But after the man ran out of money, his attitude towards himself changed. He doesn’t treat me as well as before and gets on my nerves and treats me carelessly, so I end up leaving. However, the man does not think that the reason the woman left is because of his behavior. I think it’s because of money. When he had money, the woman stayed by his side, but when he ran out of money, she left. Actually, it is comfortable for a man to think that a woman left him because of money. If a woman leaves because of lack of money, she becomes the cause of the breakup. The relationship is broken because of a woman who does not know true love and only talks about money. However, if he says the woman left because he abused her, the problem lies with him. The only conclusion I can come to is that the relationship ended because I was a bad person. In order to be happy in your own heart, it is convenient to think that the cause of unhappiness lies not with yourself, but with the other person. So, I think the reason the relationship ended was purely because of money. If we had still had money, we wouldn’t have broken up.
This man’s thoughts are also correct. This man was a decent guy when he had money. He was an ordinary man who cared for and cared for women. But when the money ran out, this man changed. I have no confidence and feel intimidated. Because they lack self-confidence, they react sensitively to other people’s insignificant words or actions. As a result, relationships with other people also become strained. Regardless of whether you have money or not, it is not a problem as long as your mindset and actions are consistent. However, ordinary people are not like that. Your thoughts and actions change when you have money and when you don’t. When you have money, you feel more relaxed and your relationships with others are smoother. If you don’t have money, your leisure time disappears and your attitude towards others becomes more negative.
If people’s minds and behavior change depending on whether they have money or not, wouldn’t this hypothesis hold true? “One way to maintain good relationships with people is to make money.”
Let’s say you decide to become a better person. Let’s say you want to become a person who is considerate of others and doesn’t get angry. What should I do if I want to become that kind of person? You will need to develop your character. You can also pursue a life attitude that examines and examines your mindset and actions. Meditation can also be a method. But wouldn’t making a lot of money be one of the ways to develop character? If you don’t have money, you easily become sensitive to life, worry more, and find it difficult to be considerate of others. However, if you have enough money, you can think of others and your heart may become softer. If money changes a person’s mind and attitude in this way, then making money can be a way of self-discipline.
Rich children without wrinkles
This line appears in the movie ‘Parasite’. “(Rich people) are naive, trust people, and are not twisted.” A person who is innocent, trusts people well, and has no twists is a good person. Although he has the disadvantage of being easily offended by others, it is clear that he is a good person in absolute terms. To become this kind of person, there is no need to go into the mountains for mental training or join a religious group and undergo rigorous training. Just become rich. If you become rich, you can become a person who trusts others well and is free from wrongdoing. This line appears in the drama ‘The Man From Nowhere’. “It is easy for a person who lives well to become a good person.” This means that it is easy for people who live well to become good people because they can help others. Then, conversely, one of the ways to become a good person is to become a person who lives well.
Money doesn’t just help you become a better person. Money also helps in raising children to be better children. Another famous line from the movie ‘Parasite’ was said by actor Song Kang-ho. “Children from rich families don’t have wrinkles. Money is the iron. “They say money smoothes out wrinkles.”
What should I do if I want to raise my child to be wrinkle-free? Would it be okay to hold on to the child every day and give him/her mental education? If I continue to receive psychological counseling with a psychologist by my side, will my child become wrinkle-free? Should I continue to encourage them to get along well with their friends? That could also be a solution. But there is a more likely method than that. Just become rich. I can become rich and my child can become a child of a rich family. Then, there is a high possibility that the child will grow up to be wrinkle-free. Making money can be the best educational method to create a foundation for a child to grow up without any problems.
Of course, having money does not necessarily mean that you will become a good person or that your children will grow up without wrinkles. This is a problem of probability. They say that graduating from a prestigious university makes your life better, but not everyone’s life improves just because they graduated from a prestigious university. There are absolutely many people who graduate from prestigious universities but cannot make a living, and who live lives that are no different from those who graduated from ordinary universities. However, if you graduate from a prestigious university, there is only a slightly greater chance of being better than someone who graduated from an average university. To increase their chances, students study every day and try to get into a prestigious university. If there is a method with a slightly higher probability, it is a path that can be pursued with enough effort.
Likewise, having enough money doesn’t always make you a good person. Children do not always grow up without wrinkles. As you have more money, you may become a more stingy and picky person. A child who grows up in a rich family may become not only a wrinkle-free child, but also very spoiled and ignorant of the world. It’s not 100% certain that having more money makes you a better person. However, it is true that it slightly increases the probability.
If you want to be a good person, become rich
You are more likely to look out for other people when you have money than when you are strapped for money. You are more likely to be relaxed and not react sensitively to other people’s actions. Children are more likely to grow up without wrinkles. A higher probability is enough of a reason for us to pursue it with effort. Don’t think that wanting to make more money is simply because you are greedy. When you decide to become a better person, one of the few effective ways to try is to make a lot of money. Making money is also a useful way to become a better person. So making money can be a way to develop character.
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〈This article Weekly Donga No. 1471It was published in.〉
Seongrak Choi, Ph.D. in Business Administration
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