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Giovanni Baratto highlights that “the boys usually find themselves a couple of times during the week, and this represents an advantage because it gives us the opportunity to share this difficult step. Because together the road is less difficult, as in the mountains when you go in cordata. And in this spirit, that is, together, it will be decided how to remember Nicolò appropriately, to which we are all linked ».
A style also confirmed by the young president of Catholic Action, Ilaria Fornasiero, who specifies: «This pain touches everyone and we are all close, supporting each other. Nicolò was a good soul. We, before being a group of educators, are a group of friends, and we feel deeply the lack of coli that is his nickname but we want to be next to his parents, in particular to the twin Manuel. They were inseparable and really almost two drops of water, so much so that to stand out from the brother, Nicolò often wore a different color shirt, usually clear ».
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Finding Strength in Shared Grief: An Expert’s Take on Community Healing
Time.news: Today,we’re discussing the profound impact of community support in navigating grief with Dr. Evelyn Reed, a leading expert in grief counseling and group therapy. Dr. Reed, thank you for joining us.
Dr. Reed: it’s my pleasure to be here.
Time.news: We recently came across a piece highlighting a group of young people supporting each other after the loss of their friend, Nicolò. The article emphasized how their regular meetings and shared experiences are helping them cope. What are your thoughts on this type of grassroots grief support?
Dr. Reed: It’s incredibly powerful. What Giovanni Baratto articulated – that “together the road is less arduous” – is a key principle in grief recovery. When individuals come together to share their experiences,thay realize they are not alone in their feelings. [2] This shared understanding creates a safe space for vulnerability and healing. The analogy of climbers in cordata is very fitting; when facing a difficult climb, the support and trust within the rope team is essential.
Time.news: Ilaria Fornasiero, the young president of Catholic Action, highlighted the group’s foundation as friends first, then educators. How important is that pre-existing relationship in these situations?
Dr.Reed: A pre-existing bond can be a significant advantage. it provides a foundation of trust and familiarity, making it easier to open up and share feelings in a vulnerable time. The shared history and memories can provide a comforting backdrop during what is surely a dark period for everyone involved. This pre-existing connection can allow them to support Nicolò’s parents, and especially his twin brother, Manuel, more authentically.
Time.news: The article mentions the group deciding together how to appropriately remember Nicolò. What is the significance of collective remembrance in the grieving process?
Dr.Reed: Collective remembrance is vital. Actively participating in memorializing a loved one can be an empowering step in processing grief. By collectively deciding how to honor Nicolò, the group takes ownership of their grief journey and ensures that his memory lives on in a way that is meaningful to all of them. This process can also foster a sense of unity and purpose as they navigate their loss together. It’s about creating a lasting legacy of Nicolò’s life.
Time.news: What advice would you give to someone who is grieving and looking for support but doesn’t have a built-in community like this group of friends?
Dr. Reed: Fortunately, there are many resources available.[3] Seeking out grief support groups, either in person or online, is a great starting point. These groups provide a structured environment to share experiences and connect with others who understand what you’re going through. There are also online platforms like My Grief Angels [1], that offer resources and support. remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
time.news: Many people feel awkward or unsure about offering support to someone who is grieving. what’s the best way to approach that situation?
Dr. Reed: The most important thing is to simply be present and listen. Avoid offering unsolicited advice or trying to minimize their pain. Phrases like “I can’t imagine what you’re going through” or “I’m here for you if you need anything” can be incredibly comforting.Offer practical help, such as running errands or providing a meal. And most importantly, be patient. Grief has no timeline,and your friend or loved one may need your support for a long time to come.
Time.news: Dr. Reed, thank you for sharing your insights with us today. Your expertise highlights the importance of community and connection in navigating the challenging journey of grief.
Dr. Reed: Thank you for having me. it’s a topic that deserves much more attention.
