Girl: Next week is not our wedding, is it?
Boy: How soon is the time. One thing I can assure you. I will not touch your hand without your consent.
Girl: Sweet of you. If the love between us is in depth then you can know my desires without asking consent and we will understand each other.
This is not a coincidence. A chat with a similar meaning went viral on social media a long time ago. The concept of a man asking for consent even after marriage has been the subject of ridicule by many. The same attitude is behind the very complexity of the subject of marital rape but the most gentle approach to the subject.
” It was mandatory for the family to get married soon after graduation. I did not know any kitchen work. My dream was to go to PG and get a doctorate. The first day after the wedding, he first came to the bedroom and told me to take off all my clothes. He was forced to do so. Every time he looked at me it was as if a stranger was looking at me naked. I felt like a worm was sifting. I was raped that night. I was even scared to cry. Then he went to class but could not study. Then I had to choose, either married life or study. No matter how long it took, he never asked me my likes on sex. He did it like a kind of madness. I chose to study. What peace I got after the divorce! ”
This is not just a story. It is the experience of a girl. She now holds a doctorate and has landed a top job somewhere in the United States, and is living by marrying someone she loves. Her happy life is on her face now.
Consent is the most important thing in a physical relationship. But what consent is there for those who see woman as an instrument of physical pleasure? It is neither polite nor legal to talk about sex without her consent, not only physically but also mentally. It is in this context that the term Me Too often becomes relevant. It has always been alleged outside of marital relationships. It is an offense to physically and mentally exploit someone by making any promises and even to touch the body without consent. For physical needs during romantic times, the partner is misled by making promises that are not possible to walk. Promise that is unlikely to happen is itself an injustice.
Imagine being touched by someone who is not interested. How many women are victims of such touches even in public! It is not always for women to be silent and responsive. The way she stands and grows may be less responsive, but that does not mean she enjoys it. Women have such experiences in all crowded celebrations. Beyond asking the woman’s consent here, it does not even matter who she is, what she is, what it is, it is just a body. Being less responsive does not mean touching a woman’s body without consent. Touching the body of a person – be it a woman or a man – must be outside of their full, unconditional consent. That’s when it becomes more beautiful.
Consent is often ridiculous in a marriage. But there are so many stories to be told by each couple about having sex without their consent! It does not take long to ask for consent in marriage. Thoughts of mutual love, needs and decisions will eliminate the word consent when the mental connection is strong.
If the protagonist says that sex is not a promise, or if the protagonist says that sexual intercourse is formed by giving any promise, then the consent is lost. There are people here who exploit women everywhere and everywhere. They gain by intimidating, promising and weakening. The rest is the heart of a woman broken in faith. Do others understand that her body is not just an instrument but part of a person who needs her own interests, personality and experience? It is recognized that it is not only men who exploit women in this way. There are also women who exploit women sexually and financially. Such stories have been told by many. It’s just not necessary to say it out loud because it can not be generalized. How deep is the confidence and love that mutually agreed-upon love and sex give partners! Asking for consent to even touch one can only increase a woman’s respect and love for the person behind her. She is the owner of a woman’s heart and thoughts, and it is safe to say that she understood. Every man’s feelings and thoughts are different, so there is no point in generalizing that he knows a woman. Not every woman is easy to understand without what she says. That is why it is so important to ask for her consent when dealing with her.
English Summary: Woman About Sexual Consent