- Jürgen von der Lippe’s relationship secret
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Jürgen von der Lippe has been happy with his wife Anne Dohrenkamp for over four decades, although they never moved in together. The entertainer highlights in “The Blue Couch” podcast: “The separate apartments are really the secret recipe.” This way of life is successful for the couple and continues even in old age.
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Jürgen von der Lippe’s relationship secret
The entertainer and his wife decided to live separately from the beginning. “We have decided: If we move into a retirement home, everyone will have their own apartment.”explains Jürgen von der Lippe on RTL. This decision gives both partners the necessary freedom and opportunities to retreat. This means that the couple can also do things separately.
As he reports in the podcast, he found it easier not to engage with his wife Anne during the pandemic: “I hear all the families rely on each other and their nerves are always on edge - so of course the place to retreat to is a real challenge.”
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Jürgen von der Lippe is not the only person who lives by this model. Matthias Schweighöfer and Ruby O. Fee also decided on separate apartments. Schweighöfer explained in the “Bunte” interview that it was nice to have his girlfriend “to pick up again”. This type of cohabitation allows couples to miss each other and keep the relationship fresh.
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Interview between Time.news Editor and Relationship Expert
Time.news Editor (TNE): Welcome to this special edition of Time.news, where we delve into unique relationship dynamics. Today, we have the pleasure of speaking with renowned relationship expert, Dr. Emily Hartman. We’re diving into an intriguing concept recently highlighted by entertainer Jürgen von der Lippe regarding couples living separately.
Dr. Emily Hartman (DEH): Thank you for having me! I’m excited to discuss this fascinating approach.
TNE: So, Jürgen von der Lippe has shared that he and his wife, Anne Dohrenkamp, have been happily married for over 40 years without ever living together. He mentioned that separate apartments are their “secret recipe.” What are your thoughts on this unique lifestyle choice?
DEH: It’s quite unconventional, but it certainly has its merits! The notion of maintaining individuality within a partnership can be very beneficial. For many couples, having separate spaces allows each partner to cultivate their own interests and identities, which can ultimately strengthen the relationship.
TNE: Jürgen pointed out that they even plan to keep separate residences when they move to a retirement home. How does this mindset contribute to the longevity of their relationship?
DEH: That’s a great point! By prioritizing personal space, they foster an environment where both partners feel independent and fulfilled. It helps to prevent feelings of suffocation or resentment that can sometimes occur in close quarters. This intentional decision to maintain separate living spaces signals a mutual respect for each other’s autonomy.
TNE: He also mentioned that during the pandemic, he found it easier not to engage with Anne all the time, noting that many families were struggling with close quarters. What impact do you think this has on family dynamics, especially during challenging times?
DEH: The pandemic has indeed tested many relationships, and for some, being together constantly can heighten stress. Having a ‘place to retreat’ is crucial for mental health and personal space. It reminds us that while proximity can forge intimacy, distance can also allow for longing and deeper appreciation for one another, as often seen in long-distance relationships.
TNE: Speaking of distance, Matthias Schweighöfer and Ruby O. Fee have embraced a similar setup with separate apartments, enhancing their relationship by creating a space to “miss each other.” How essential is this element of longing in a romantic relationship?
DEH: Longing or absence can often spark excitement and vitality in a relationship, reinforcing attraction. It’s not just about physical distance; it’s about the energy of anticipation. When partners view their time apart as an opportunity to reconnect, it leads to more meaningful interactions when they are together.
TNE: Do you think this arrangement works for every couple? What factors should partners consider before deciding on living separately?
DEH: It certainly isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. Communication is key. Couples should consider their personal needs, whether they thrive on closeness or need space. If both partners are aligned and understand that their love can flourish outside the traditional cohabitation model, then it can be a really fulfilling way to live.
TNE: Fantastic insights, Dr. Hartman! It seems that how couples structure their lives can profoundly influence their relationship dynamics. Thank you for sharing your expertise on this alternative yet intriguing relationship model.
DEH: It’s been my pleasure! Relationships are as unique as the individuals in them, and learning from varied approaches can only enrich our understanding of love and partnership.
TNE: Thank you for joining us, and we hope our audience gained a fresh perspective on relationships from today’s discussion. Until next time!