2024-04-07 05:33:29
If on a sunny spring morning you feel disgusted that you have to go to work, you urgently need a new one
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You wake up, it’s bright outside and it’s a beautiful sunny day. But you don’t smile. You find it unbearable to have to get up and go to work again. Even the thought that there are days off on Easter does not make you happy. You wonder not only how you will get through the weeks with them, but it also sours your future – that when you return on May 7, you will have to go to work again every morning.
If this is how you feel in the spring, then it’s time for you to change jobs. Contrary to the popular recipe to take stock and make cardinal decisions towards the end of the year psychologists say that the more accurate season for this is spring. It predisposes to optimism, and if you don’t have any, then you are very fed up.
Depression is the first sign that you don’t feel good about what you do five days a week for at least 8 hours. It’s a disease, but you don’t need to suffer from constant sadness or be often tearful to know it’s creeping up on you. The very fact that you leave every morning not wanting to go to work means that you are not happy. Do not wait for other symptoms, this one is enough to immediately think about your health.
Otherwise, the condition can get complicated. People who are bored with their work and haven’t made a change for a long time start to feel trapped. They suffer, they want to break free, but they are increasingly afraid to take a step outside the familiar, to risk looking for a place in another company or to try a new profession.
This is how they reach the third stage – because they are unhappy in their jobs and because they realize that they do not have the courage to change, they become indifferent in their relationships with those closest to them. Or super irritable – they take out their negative emotions on them. They end up causing pain to themselves, their family and friends.
Before these relapses occur, think about how long you don’t feel like going to work in the morning. If it’s recent, maybe you’re tired and it will go away after you take your vacation and rest for a week or two.
Since it’s been a long time, figure out when it started. Perhaps the atmosphere in the team heated up because of difficult tasks, because of a nervous boss, because of a new colleague with whom you do not get along. Perhaps the company has problems that create uncertainty, and management does not give signals that it knows how to solve them.
It’s natural that all of this affects you, but it’s probably just an occasion. The real reason you dramatize it is because you feel exhausted. Therefore, every challenge and your usual environment of colleagues drains your energy. You don’t expect anything good to happen to you here because you have given your all and not been given opportunities for development.
It’s not just about career advancement or higher income. Professional development is also important. If you are stuck in a routine, if you are already bored of performing the same duties in the same way, how can you not feel exhausted. What used to bring you joy in this profession and in this work now tires and irritates you. Your only way out is to look for a new source of positive energy and satisfaction in order not to self-destruct.
Another possible reason for your reluctance to go to work in the morning is that you don’t see the point. Yes, you go to work to earn money. But every person would like their efforts to benefit someone else. And if your activity conflicts with your personal beliefs and moral values, of course you are even more unhappy.
Don’t kid yourself that it will go away. On the contrary, your dissatisfaction will deepen. Better take your vacation and use it to decide what to do.
After resting for about a week, give yourself a few hours of solitude to reflect.
Systematize in your head what you feel, why you feel it, and how you can get out of it.
Then discuss it with your partner or a close friend. When you talk out loud about your condition and plans or even your hesitations, everything will become clearer. The partner or friend will help you with the perspective of a person who knows you, but also with the objectivity of the external assessment.
It will be great to get his support, even if it is only moral, because changing jobs is not that easy. It would be foolish to leave the present and go to a place where you will soon begin to feel the same way. It is wiser to make a plan of action and search until you find one that will satisfy you.
However, the decision itself will get you out of the trap. And in the morning you will be smiling, although after the vacation for some time you will have to go to that hateful job again.
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