2024-08-21 18:07:19
In this world, everyone is troubled. Sometimes the reason for trouble is our own problems and sometimes there are people who create trouble. Sometimes with their words and sometimes with their actions. It seems that they like to see others in trouble or unhappy. As if they are enjoying the pain of others.
Such people are called toxic in common parlance. Many times a person does not even know that he has become toxic. To make life happy, it is important to know about toxic people. In such a situation, Lokesh K. Bharti is giving information after talking to the best experts of the country.
Know these 8 important things first
1. It is important to decide how much interference others should have in your life. Simply put, do not let the remote of your life go into the hands of others.
2. If it is not easy to create a boundary, then it is better to listen with one ear and let it out from the other, i.e. keep talking, it doesn’t matter to me.
3. If someone in the family always focuses on the shortcomings and failures, then reach the root of the problem.
4. Sometimes things are said collectively, for example on social media. It is not right to take such things personally.
5. Where there is a need to say NO, it is not right to postpone things or not say anything every time.
6. If anger has increased, the ability to listen to others has decreased, then these could be symptoms of increasing toxicity.
7. Everyone has some toxicity or negativity in them, but if they do not harm others through their words or behaviour, then there is no problem.
8. It is said that the best way to respond to a toxic character is not responding. Simply put, do not pay attention to what toxic people say.
How do I understand that I am toxic myself?
- When you get angry over small things.
- You may not want to listen to others.
- Exaggerate your achievements so much that the other person begins to feel small.
- When even relatives and true friends start going away.
- Start feeling happy when you see others unhappy.
Pay attention- If someone feels the above mentioned things, then for reassurance he should definitely ask about his changed behaviour from someone whom he considers honest and well-wisher. If he is still not satisfied then he should seek the help of a psychologist. If the counselling of one psychologist does not help then he should go to another one. It is possible that the first psychologist may not have been able to understand his problem.
How to identify dangerous people
Spending time with such people usually does not feel good. It feels like you have wasted your time and also wasted your energy. That is why they are also called energy vampires. Below are some special types of toxic people.
Toxic people of the controlling type
- Some people are extremely toxic. Such people never lack negativity. They always talk negative things and belittle others.
- The thinking is such that their work gets done and the public can go to hell. These people are Jugaadu (a kind of Jugaadu), they tell a lot of lies to get their work done.
- Everyone is selfish, but it should not be so selfish that it causes harm to others. These are narcissists.
- They are always busy controlling others. They do not care for the dignity of others and do not value them.
- Not often, but always, they blame others for their mistakes.
- They entertain themselves by hurting others and making comments.
Dramatic type toxic people
- Such people do a lot of drama or gimmicks. They are experts in making small issues bigger. In a way, they are drama magnets, that is, they enjoy doing drama.
- Such people want their words to be taken seriously, but they do not pay attention to what the other person says.
- Such people play the victim game. They feel jealous of others, always portray themselves as victims and are experts in getting their work done.
Good from inside but answers are crooked or reverse
- They give evasive answers to even common questions. For example: Did you eat food? The answer will be, ‘Even if I don’t eat, I won’t die’ or ‘You are not doing me a favour by giving me food’ etc.
- If someone asks what happened in the office, the answer will be, ‘What difference does it make to you, whether you stay at home or not.’
- Such people often regret their answers, but due to pride they are unable to apologize.
Pay attention- The symptoms mentioned above may sometimes appear in a particular situation or in anger, but this may not happen often. When normal people do the toxic activities mentioned above, they also regret it when the situation becomes normal. They also apologize for it and also promise that such a thing will not happen again.
Expert Panel
Dr. Sameer ParikhSenior Psychiatrist
Dr. Satyakant TrivediSenior Psychiatrist
Yadhav MehraCorporate Trainer
Ragini SinghPsychotherapist Counselor
Dr. Anurag Aryadermatologist and counselor
geetanjali sharma marriage-Relationship Counselor
pooja priyamvadarelationship counselor