New Study Reveals Painful Reality of Sex for Menopausal Women
A recent poll conducted by Kindra-Harris shed light on the experiences of menopausal women aged 50 and over. The survey focused on their sex lives, with some shocking results. While 70% of participants reported enjoying penetrative vaginal sex, 41% admitted to experiencing pain during intercourse, a condition known as dyspareunia. What is even more surprising is that nearly one-third of those who experienced discomfort continued to engage in sexual activity.
According to experts, this willingness to endure pain stems from a resignation to its inevitability. Juliana Hauser, a family and marriage therapist, sexuality expert, and member of Kindra’s advisory board, explains that many women assume pain is a normal part of sex for individuals with vulvas. Additionally, they view sex as a “duty” prioritizing their partner’s needs. Furthermore, some women may not be aware that medical conditions can exacerbate pain during intercourse, conditions that are often treatable.
For years, discussions surrounding vaginal health and vulvar pleasure have been avoided, creating a barrier that discourages women from communicating their needs both inside and outside the bedroom. Dr. Jill Krapf, an ob-gyn and medical advisor to Evvy, highlights that the majority of women wait until their issues become severe before seeking medical advice.
Fortunately, change appears to be on the horizon, albeit slowly. The poll revealed that over half of women aged 50 and above keep a “sexual toolbox” filled with products that prioritize pleasure and provide the most comfortable sexual experiences possible.
One significant cause of pain during intercourse is vaginal dryness, affecting up to 60% of menopausal women due to a loss of estrogen, as reported by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. Other factors contributing to discomfort include uncomfortable sex positions, emotional disconnection or insecurity, and a lack of communication, according to Hauser. Medically, dyspareunia is linked to conditions such as vaginismus (involuntary muscle tightness), endometriosis, pelvic inflammatory disease, and urinary tract or sexually transmitted infections.
Experts suggest that a woman’s sexual toolbox should cater specifically to her needs, making each toolbox unique. However, there are a few key items that many contain. These include:
– Lubricant: Used to replace natural vaginal lubrication, lubricants can enhance pleasure during sex. Water-based, oil-based, and silicone-based lubes are available, with the selection depending on an individual’s anatomy and the materials of other tools. Krapf recommends Good Clean Love BioNude Ultra Sensitive Personal Water-Based Lubricant as it is hypo-allergenic and suitable for most people.
– Vaginal moisturizer: Unlike lubricants used during sex, vaginal moisturizers are regularly applied to the vulva to rebuild moisture over time, ensuring readiness for intimacy. There are products available, such as CeraVe Healing Ointment, Foria’s Vibrance Everyday Moisturizer, and Stripes’ Vag of Honor Hydrating Gel.
– Toys: Sex toys are essential for enhancing pleasure, with an array of options available. Vibrators and dildos are common staples, and exploring different toys is key to finding what works best. Hauser advises individuals to approach experimentation with curiosity and an open mind. A clitoral vibrator is a good starting point as studies show that almost 37% of American women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm.
– Sensory aids: Engaging all the senses during sex can enhance the experience. Items such as candles, comfy pillows, and textured toys like feather teasers can contribute to a more pleasurable encounter.
– Condoms: Apart from their pregnancy prevention properties, condoms also act as a barrier against sexually transmitted infections (STIs). They can provide extra lubrication and sensory pleasure through textured ribbing. Krapf recommends SKYN Original Condoms for being non-latex and suitable for sensitive patients.
– Wipes: For individuals seeking to freshen up before or after sex, Water Wipes are recommended. Unlike many other products on the market, these wipes contain only water, with no added chemicals or fragrances.
– Communication: Communication is one of the most vital components in a sexual relationship. It ensures that everyone involved has a good time without pain or discomfort. Hauser emphasizes feeling empowered to make changes for pain-free intimacy. Additionally, Krapf highlights the significance of emotional connection and exploring various forms of intimacy.
A sexual toolbox is not only functional but also empowering, offering individuals a sense of control. It can enhance intimacy and emotional connection within relationships. As our lives become increasingly stressful, having tools to help relax and prepare mentally and physically for intimacy can make a significant difference. Above all, a sexual toolbox serves as a private proclamation that an individual’s pleasure matters and is their birthright and responsibility.
The findings of this study emphasize the importance of addressing the discomfort experienced by menopausal women during sexual activity. By breaking the silence surrounding vaginal health and empowering women to communicate their needs, we can foster a more fulfilling and pleasurable sex life for all.