Virtual dropouts. From match to Cinderella syndrome

by time news

Beyond the fact that not having a partner is no longer seen as something terrible and happiness is not understood as the result of achieving a relationship in perpetuity, the issue of the affective bond of two persists strongly in the consideration of people.

In those moments of life when people go out and find themselves in the key of flirting and romance, a lot happens. In this coming and going of matches, outings, encounters and ghostly abandonments, among others a fairly common behavior is seen which we could call, without any scientific eagerness, “Cinderella syndrome”.

In the Cinderella story, at 12 o’clock the charm ended and you had to leave the party quickly. The girl fled before it was seen who she really was, regardless of how well the matter with the prince was coming or, perhaps, precisely because of that. Cinderella had nothing wrong with her condition, but she believed that yes, she should hide her reality, and that is why, before the bells rang out, she ran away in a hurry, leaving her little shoe as a failed act.

The story (which accounts for a situation that is not limited to women, by the way) describes part of what is a classic of modern courtship: the sudden flight of one of the members of a relationship that seemed to give for more, when less, according to the criteria of the one who was “paying” when the leak occurred.

In the backstage of many of those who appear in history as “abandoners” lives a kind of Cinderella (or Cinderella, if you prefer) who does not want their truth to be known without the protection of the enchantment of the case. In general, the flight is not necessarily “against” the other, but a way of not seeing something of one’s own that one does not want to share, not even with oneself, to the point that the fugitive usually does not know from the conscious to what responds to his own runaway behavior.

The explanations after a “he did not call me again and did not respond to my messages” may also be others, but we dare to say that Cinderella syndrome is a factor behind a significant percentage of “ghosts” and various abandonments in the relationships, in times of applications that favor distance and anonymity.

It is known that love when it makes its way shows what we are, and if we do not get along with ourselves we disguise ourselves as something else so that, at least, the issue does not hurt so much.

In general, what comes up after 12 is not so bad. Or, if it is, it is well worth putting it in the sunlight to heal it in some way. In short, you cannot live by dint of enchantments and magic with a time limit. And someday we will have to stay at the party and see what happens after the chimes.

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