When one becomes an affair: the beloved, that “other woman”

by time news

“One is company, two is a crowd, and three is a party,” said Andy Warhol. That may be true in general except in love. Anyone who has ever found themselves in the constellation of couple plus affair – no matter what position – knows the potential for conflict and the often inevitable suffering. Still, in stories about love triangles, the focus is often on the couple: on the cheated person who is supposed to forgive, or the cheating person who should choose between partner and affair.

The role of the lover also seems – at first glance – pitiful: You are invisible, hang in a waiting position, depend on the time and future planning of another person. This loved one is currently unreachable for a monogamous relationship, which is why the loved ones spend months, years, some even decades of their lives hoping for a positive decision.

But are these people really passive and helpless? Can’t they really change anything about their situation – and their suffering?

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