With a pension of 14 million, I still live with my son, but every time I wash the dishes, my daughter-in-law washes them and even chases me back to my hometown | Life – Entertainment

2023-10-13 00:58:00

Having given birth to our only son, my husband and I never thought we would rely on him in the future even if he is successful, this or that woman. My husband and I both have quite high pensions. Each month my pension is about 14 million VND and my husband’s is 18 million VND. This salary is enough for an elderly couple to travel everywhere and live comfortably in a green 2-story house in a peaceful countryside.

Knowing that my children are busy far away and come back to visit 2-3 times a year, I rarely bother them. (Illustration)

After graduating, my son went to the South to work. After that, I settled down and got married there. Because they live far away, the children only visit their parents during the summer and Lunar New Year. There were times when my husband was sick or had important work to do in the countryside, so only my son could fly out, while my daughter-in-law was busy working and taking care of her grandchild who was in kindergarten. Therefore, when something comes up, knowing my children are busy, I often do not notify them but proactively resolve it so as not to bother them.

I thought old age would pass peacefully like that, but after a stroke, my husband left me. Since my husband passed away, the small house in the countryside suddenly became too big for me. I’m afraid of loneliness every time night falls, so I call my son to share. She offered to take me to Saigon to stay with the children. On the other hand, my wife was about to give birth to her second child, so she helped take care of the birth and stayed there. Of course, I was very happy with this proposal, so I quickly arranged to go to Saigon to live with my children and grandchildren to have a happy old age.

Every day my son goes to work from morning until 7-8 pm, and at home there are only me and my daughter-in-law, who is pregnant for the second time. Even though my belly is overbearing because she is in the 8th month of pregnancy, my daughter-in-law still Online sales at home are very popular. Seeing my mother-in-law coming to stay with me, I did not show much joy, but my attitude was very normal but always polite, showing respect for my mother-in-law.

Seeing that my daughter was heavily pregnant in the 8th month, I did not let her have a hand in anything in the house. From going to the market to cooking and cleaning the house, I do everything so my child can have time to rest. At mealtime, the daughter-in-law just has to eat and do her daily chores.

I also reminded my child to reduce the amount of work to rest and take care of the pregnancy so that both mother and child are healthy. Because after giving birth the second time, the mother’s labor process will be faster because she has gone through the process of giving birth to her first child. At that time, the mother’s cervix will no longer be too tight and will open much easier than the first time, and the mother will have experience in pushing, so giving birth will be much quicker than the first time. My daughter-in-law also said she will have less work to do to nurse. pregnancy in the last months of pregnancy.

Although on the outside, mother and daughter were still happy and trying to erase the initial awkwardness of the days they were together, I was always optimistic and thought they would gradually get used to it. Yet after just over 2 weeks here, I discovered that every time I finished washing the dishes, even though I washed them very cleanly and placed them neatly, it didn’t seem to be the right way, so I still saw my pregnant daughter-in-law washing them again.

So the other day when mother and daughter were having dinner, the daughter-in-law asked her mother-in-law:

“Do you not like living in the countryside like many other old people? Coming here, will mom feel disturbed or sad when she just walks around within 4 walls all day?

Hearing my daughter-in-law ask that, I understood somewhat what she was thinking. I still tell my children that the countryside is peaceful and enjoyable, but they live alone. Coming here, I live near my children and grandchildren and take care of my daughter-in-law while I’m away. As soon as she heard that, her daughter-in-law waved her hand:

“It’s my second time giving birth so I don’t know when I will give birth. Moreover, I have experience in confinement, so I don’t need a grandmother or grandmother to take care of me. If you want to go back to your hometown, just go home, you don’t have to worry about your children and grandchildren.”

Even though my daughter-in-law spoke very softly and tactfully, I knew she didn’t want me to stay because it would disrupt their small family. That afternoon, without saying goodbye to my son, I called a taxi to take him back to my hometown, feeling indescribably sad and heartbroken.

Seeing my daughter-in-law doing a lot of work, I told her to reduce her work to take care of the last months of pregnancy. (Illustration)

The son came home from work and was surprised to see that his mother had returned home, so he quickly called. I had to tell my son that he missed home so much that he went back to his hometown and couldn’t stop. I also remind my children to take care of their pregnant wives. The couple who do not return to their grandparents’ house must take good care of each other, even though they don’t know if staying alone after giving birth is the daughter-in-law’s true wish or just an excuse to chase them away. mother-in-law returned home.

But no matter what, now I understand: “Parents’ house is their children’s home, but their children’s home is never their parents’ home.” Well, I can live alone in the countryside, but my daughter-in-law is alone and has no one to support me, and I feel a bit worried.

Benefits when mothers stay in confinement after giving birth

Besides the option of living with the husband’s parents or biological parents after giving birth, the option that many mothers currently agree with the most is that the couple takes care of the child themselves, or asks for additional help with housework from a maid.

According to the mothers, they themselves do not want to see grandparents busy staying up at night, worrying about their grandchildren, harming their health. When they were young, taking care of their children and grandchildren was enough. The young couple is happy to take care of their child on their own, so that the grandparents can enjoy the countryside in their old age.

In addition, about 1 month of confinement after giving birth is the most tiring time, so the couple focuses on taking care of the baby and each other, and they can hire someone to help with the housework. Otherwise, both husband and wife can arrange and divide it together. work accordingly. This way you don’t bother your grandparents and can take care of your children as you like, without being constrained by many other issues, and avoiding unnecessary conflicts.