2023-07-04 11:46:54
The previous phrase that you may come across today, accompanied by videos on social media platforms about fathers, or perhaps about a sister based on her brother or even her husband, appeared in the drama “A Safety Distance”, which was shown in Ramadan 2019.
In the Syrian series “A Safe Distance” (written by Iman Saeed and directed by Laith Hajjo), Nour, that is, the actress Hala Ragab, was actually addressing these words to her father, who was played by the actor Gerges Jabara, after he was exhausted by the disease, and after she had been exposed to the worst forms of Harm from a young man who promised her marriage and let her down, and she did not find a bosom and safety in this whole world except in a space that is as wide as two shoulders, the shoulders of her father’s Murad.
This picture and this scene, despite their great message, and despite all the qualities of love, tenderness, and containment that may be transmitted from them to the viewer, and a few days after Father’s Day, which falls on the twenty-first of June of each year, they ask us a legitimate question: Do fathers or men not have the right to Generally to weaken and tend?
November is Men’s Health Awareness Month, May is Mental Health Awareness Month for All, and in some countries, led by the United States of America, June is Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, and between these months and their symbolism, what What really matters is the health of men, women, and everyone.
The act of crying is one of the most important methods of psychological and emotional release. It may not always be caused by sadnessCrying is forbidden for men The act of crying is one of the most important methods of psychological and emotional release. It may not always be caused by sadness, as there are “tears of joy” at graduation ceremonies, weddings and at the birth of a new baby. But often, a person, regardless of his gender, cries when sad, pain and separation, and his eyeballs shed what his words may not be able to express, or he cries when words are of no use. This act, despite its simplicity, is attached to the adjective “defect” in our societies.
Nour (29 years old), an employee of an association, told Raseef22: “Since I was a child, I have heard phrases like ‘men don’t cry’ and ‘shame you are my man’, as well as the common saying ‘a young man can be hungry, but he can’t get tired’.” A person who does not know how to express his feelings and what is inside him.I have always suppressed my feelings, and I am not good at expressing them.At one stage I had many feelings, but I did not know how to translate them to the outside, which caused me physical and organic pain, such as fatigue, exhaustion, tension, and even Today I may have a feeling that I don’t know how to react to.”
For his part, Daniel Muhanna (21 years old), who works in a shop in Zahle, believes that everyone is exposed to daily pressures and difficulties that he must face, rather than cry over every detail and every adversity. He affirms that he heard the phrase “Men do not cry” from the family, relatives and the small circle, but “they did not affect me and I overcame these phrases. Some believe that if they cry, this is an insult, but I do not, I consider it a way of expression and I have no problem with it.”
Karam (25 years old), who works in a media organization, and unlike the two previous speakers, confirms that these phrases were not directed at him at all: “Praise be to God, my family and my surroundings are Suleiman, but more than that, I went through a certain setback some time ago, and I had a young friend who ‘caught me’.” I told him that I wanted to cry, so he encouraged me to cry with the usual phrase, ‘cry with ease.’ A man cries when something precious or dear to him is lost, and this is his natural right, but he should not make crying a part of his personality.”
As for Ali Raya (34 years), a civil engineer, he mediates his experience between the two aforementioned groups, and says that he must have heard these sentences, “But the good thing is that I used to hear them from people around me in our eastern Baalbek community, and not from my family and my small family. On the contrary, I asked them once if The man was crying, and the answer was that he was definitely crying, grieving, tired, and expressing all his feelings, but my parents also taught me at that time to realize where, when, and in front of whom I cried, and to show my weakness so that I would not be exploited.
Psychiatrist Dr. Antoine Shartouni confirms that our society is dominated by a culture that “we are forbidden to cry, grieve, and express our feelings.” He believes that the best solution to confront this phenomenon and its consequences begins in childhood: “We have to encourage the child to be able to cry and scream, and to express his annoyance.” Or even joy, the important thing is that we give him room to express his feelings and all his states. Al-Shartouni asserts that the state of repression and emotional and psychological repression of male children in particular, and taming them not to cry, “translates later into severe psychological crises, and then the solution is treatment.”
Are men more likely to commit suicide? Suicide is the act of practicing psychological harm that may kill a person or expose him to a permanent disability or an organic health problem – in different ways – by an individual who suffers from an acute psychological crisis that pushes him to this behavior, such as suffering from severe depression or despair. As for mental disorder, including depression, it is a gross clinical imbalance in the individual’s perception or control of his feelings or behavior, and it is usually associated with distress or deficiencies in important areas of performance, noting that the types of mental disorders are many and different, according to the World Health Organization.
The organization, and within the “Live Life” campaign launched in 2019, to promote suicide prevention efforts, confirmed that the number of males who die due to suicide is twice as high as the number of females (12.6 out of every 100,000 males compared to 5.4 out of every 100, 000 female). Whereas, Dr. Chartoni states, “There is no scientific evidence that men are more inclined to commit suicide. People of all genders are at risk of suicide, but the path that may lead them to commit suicide is motivated by the lack of expression of feelings and repression that some men suffer from.”
Between obstacles and “madness” Until not so long ago, mental illness was a stigma and a “taboo” and the sufferer was “insane, imbecile, brethren, and an idiot” in the eyes of society. Which for years constituted a strong barrier in front of anyone who wanted to end his suffering and psychological or psycho-physical pain and go to the clinic of a psychiatrist or therapist.
In Nour’s opinion, even today a part of eastern society still views those who resort to psychotherapy as “crazy, and this is a completely wrong concept, but it was not what was holding me back.” The young man, who is currently continuing his psychotherapy journey, declares that he did not believe that the therapist would be able to solve his problems: “When I started, I felt a big difference. The issue definitely takes time, and the therapist does not tell us to do this or that, but in a smart way he explains to us what is going on and guides us.” To what is good…
As mental health awareness continues to grow, it is crucial that societal attitudes towards men’s mental health evolve. Recognizing the importance of emotional expression and providing safe spaces for men to seek help is essential in addressing the high rates of suicide and mental health issues that affect them. Men, like women, deserve the opportunity to heal, grow, and thrive in their emotional well-being.]
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