Although science, medicine and sex education have advanced enormously in recent decades, numerous myths related to the intimate life of men and women that are far from being true. What are the most widespread false beliefs about male sexuality? We cleared up some of the biggest male sexual myths with the help of Arcwave’s sexologist and sexual wellness expert, Sergio Fosella.
no erection without arousal
Although the lack of erection is still considered a sign of lack of desire, the sex expert explains that this is not entirely true. “An erection varies a lot from person to person, but it also depends a lot on the situation and age. The younger the man, the faster the erection occurs.” Stress, tiredness and worries can also be factors that condition the lack of erection. “Being excited is not enough. Relaxation is needed and if we are nervous during sexual intercourse, no matter how excited we are and how much desire we have, the erection will not occur. To prevent erectile dysfunction, the specialist recommends getting enough rest, following a healthy diet and, above all, clear communication with your partner about your concerns, desires and expectations.
On the other hand, the opposite can also happen: that men have an erection without being sexually aroused. “Sometimes a casual touch is enough, or even paradoxical erections occur during stress or anxiety. Erections also occur regularly at night, in some phases of sleep, without necessarily being erotic. Basically, the penis activates a ‘self-maintenance’ (to nourish the tissues), and if that phase coincides with the moment of waking up, that is when the famous morning erection appears”, adds Fosela.
men don’t have g spot
The expert clarifies that men do have a G-spot: the prostate, which would be “the male equivalent of the female G-spot.” Despite this, according to a study carried out by Arcwave among more than 22,000 participants from 15 countries in 2022, more than a third of those surveyed do not know that the prostate is a Erogenous zone. For their part, another 33% of the men knew it, but had not experienced or attempted any stimulation in the area. “However, it can trigger orgasms, and many say not necessarily bad,” Fosela notes. The prostate can be stimulated through the anus or more subtly from the outside, through the perineum.
Sperm engorgement causes pain
Perhaps one of the most widespread myths is that when men do not have sex or masturbate it can hurt a lot, because there is a risk of semen accumulating. The specialist clarifies that the semen cannot accumulate since the human body is perfectly prepared and breaks down the ejaculate or eliminates it in the urine.
In addition, he adds that “it is not ‘discharging’ that can cause pain, but the pelvic-genital vasocongestion produced by unresolved arousal, since spontaneous discharges can occur at night if one has not ejaculated for a long time. Although there is no major problem if this happens, it is natural.”
Vasectomy affects sex life
According to the Arcwave expert, these concerns are unfounded because “vasectomy does not influence erection, orgasm, ejaculation or libido. There is even a positive influence, since sex becomes much more relaxed, since contraception against pregnancy is 100% guaranteed.
The heat generates impotence
Another false belief is that which states that heated car seats or baths and showers that are too hot cause impotence. For the expert this myth persists because impotence continues to be misunderstood. “Impotence means erectile dysfunction, that is, the erection does not occur or does not last long enough to have penetrative sex. However, heat promotes blood circulation and, in fact, it is quite good for erections”, he corrects. What is true, he adds, is that heat has negative effects on sperm quality, both in terms of count like quality.
The penis cannot be broken
Fosela clarifies that a fracture occurs in a bone and the penis does not have it. However, he reveals that what can be produced is a tear of erectile tissue. “No matter what word we use to define it, the whole thing is not pleasant. If it happens, it can happen when you slip during sex or in a sudden movement, the penis looks like an eggplant and you have to go to the hospital immediately, “he recommends.