The simple act of kindness can ripple outwards, transforming lives in ways we often underestimate. For Anita Omary, a refugee from Afghanistan who arrived in Connecticut in March 2023, that truth became profoundly real through the unwavering support of a local nurse named Dee. Omary’s story, recently highlighted by Upworthy, is a testament to the power of human connection and the vital role community plays in helping newcomers navigate the challenges of building a new life in the United States.
Omary’s journey began with months of preparation and paperwork, culminating in her arrival in Connecticut while five months pregnant. Leaving behind her career managing child protective cases and supporting refugee communities in Afghanistan, she faced a daunting reality: a new language, a different culture, and the overwhelming responsibility of starting over alone, as her husband was unable to secure a travel visa. The initial months were marked by “deep disappointment and depression,” as Omary struggled to adapt to her new surroundings. “When I first arrived, everything felt so strange—the weather, the environment, the people,” she recalled.
A Lifeline in a New Land
The turning point came during a prenatal checkup at a women’s health center in West Haven, where Omary met Dee, a nurse who immediately recognized her struggle. Dee didn’t just offer medical care; she offered a lifeline. She began checking in on Omary, both at the clinic and outside of appointments, offering practical and emotional support. “She would call me and ask am I okay, am I eating, am I healthy,” Omary said. Dee’s assistance extended beyond simple check-ins, providing an air conditioner for Omary’s small, hot room and helping her navigate the complexities of applying for jobs and obtaining a driver’s license.
Dee’s support proved instrumental in Omary’s successful transition. She passed her road test on the first attempt, secured employment, and even enrolled at the University of New Haven to pursue a master’s degree. After her son, Osman, was born, Dee’s commitment deepened. She spent five days at the hospital with Omary, bringing halal food and providing the familiar comfort of brushing her hair as her mother once did. When postpartum pain made it difficult for Omary to lift Osman’s car seat, Dee accompanied her to doctor’s appointments and carried the baby for her. “Her support truly changed my life,” Omary stated. “Her motivation, compassion, and support gave me hope. It gave me a sense of stability and confidence. I didn’t feel alone, because of her.”
From Recipient to Advocate
Dee’s unwavering kindness didn’t just help Omary rebuild her life; it ignited a desire to pay it forward. Omary now works as a career development specialist while continuing her studies, and actively advocates for refugee and immigrant families as a member of the Refugee Storytellers Collective. She connects newcomers with essential resources and educates local communities on how to best welcome them.
Omary identifies access to English classes as a significant barrier for newly arrived families, noting long waitlists and limited childcare options that prevent many, particularly women with children, from attending. She emphasizes that welcoming isn’t about grand gestures, but rather “small, consistent acts of care that remind you that you belong.” A simple compliment, a kind word – these small moments of connection can be profoundly uplifting for those adjusting to a new country. “I built my new life, but I didn’t do it alone,” Omary said. “Community and kindness were my greatest strengths.”
The Broader Impact of Welcoming Communities
Omary’s experience underscores a broader truth: welcoming immigrant and refugee neighbors strengthens the nation as a whole. The United States has long been a destination for those seeking safety and opportunity, with tens of thousands arriving each year from countries facing war, political violence, and persecution. However, escaping danger is only the first step. Newcomers face the challenges of displacement, language barriers, cultural adaptation, and, at times, social stigma.
The Levi Strauss Foundation, which supports Upworthy’s “The Threads Between U.S.” series, recognizes the importance of fostering a culture of belonging. Their grantmaking is dedicated to creating communities where everyone feels safe and valued. Omary’s story serves as a powerful example of how small acts of kindness can make a tangible difference in the lives of those seeking a new beginning.
As Omary continues her function with the Refugee Storytellers Collective, she remains committed to advocating for policies and programs that support newcomers. She will continue to share her story and inspire others to embrace the power of welcome.
What small act of kindness will you offer today? Share your thoughts in the comments below, and consider joining the Refugee Advocacy Lab to sign the #WeWillWelcome pledge and make a difference in your community.
