Sexual longing can be a reason for an infidelity – but also an excuse.
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When someone cheats, it is said that there is always something wrong in the relationship. The couple and sex therapist Ulrich Clement says: That’s only true sometimes. So why are we doing this to ourselves? And how do you get over it?
Why do people cheat, Mr. Clement?
The most common explanation, which is particularly popular with therapists, is because something is wrong in their relationship. Because one of the partners isn’t enough or it doesn’t suit me for various reasons, I secretly look for something else.
And? Is that correct?
Sometimes it’s true, sometimes it’s not. People are also easily seduced. Because the situation is like this. Because you are surprised by the fascination for someone else. It can happen.
Your book on the subject, “When love is foreign,” is now in its 10th edition. I came across a beautiful thought in it: A love affair has two driving forces. wanderlust and homesickness. What do you mean by that?