2023-09-10 08:14:00
After being married for more than 3 years, I lived in tired and depressed days for more than 3 years. Originally a beautiful, young, and active girl, I have now become an old, withered “auntie” who cannot even smile.
The apartment of more than 60 square meters is my husband and I’s first property. My husband’s parents gave me half, the rest was money my husband and I had saved and borrowed. My grandmother’s family was in difficulty so they could only afford a few tens of millions to buy furniture. So since the day I got a new house, I seem to have no voice. My mother-in-law, who was renting a house outside, suddenly moved in without saying a word to her daughter-in-law.
Tired of living with my husband’s parents. Illustration photo: Pxfuel
When I wondered, my husband said: “Mom told me it’s okay, just draw the story.” This house, which my mother gave me a lot of money for, is no different from my mother’s house.” Now I understand that when my mother-in-law gives me money, it is considered her house. I had to clean a small room for my grandparents to sleep in, whereas before I had planned to save the room for my children.
From someone who was living a happy and comfortable life, I was scrutinized little by little. Rice must be cooked according to the rations of the mother-in-law and father-in-law separately. People with diabetes and high blood pressure, so I have to carefully season each meal. There were times when my family cooked 3 pots of soup because no one ate the same. Some people can eat MSG, others can’t. Some people can eat spicy food, some can’t, so there are a few bowls of fish sauce on the tray.
I like to sleep in on weekends because I work hard all week, but every morning at 5 a.m., my father-in-law makes me get up to go to the market to buy breakfast and then cook and serve for the whole family to eat. I said, my mother-in-law said “daughter-in-law is impolite”. My husband does not defend his wife but also forces him to obey his parents’ wishes.
After nearly 3 years of marriage, I was not pregnant and had to seek treatment everywhere. This alone is too stressful for me. But my parents-in-law did not forgive me and forced everything on me. Every day my mother nags at me, thinking that the reason is all in me. Because of stress, it became more difficult for me to get pregnant. The doctor told me to get enough sleep and eat well, but in that environment, I really couldn’t try.
In that case, the husband’s parents were so angry that the whole floor could hear their argument. I was so embarrassed that I didn’t know where to hide. In the past, friends often came to my house, but now, I don’t dare invite anyone to come. If anyone asks, I politely refuse.
On Sunday, the husband slept until 10 o’clock, but the daughter-in-law couldn’t, so she had to wake up when her mother-in-law woke up. Many times, when I want to go out to eat for a change, my husband says that at home, no one takes care of food and water for my grandparents. I suddenly became a maid for my husband’s family.
Up to now, I have been lucky enough to be pregnant but I am not happy. Because since I was pregnant, my mother-in-law kept asking if it was a boy or a girl. She assumed that the child in her womb was a boy and then talked about everything about his future. More tired, I’m not allowed to have morning sickness. As soon as I vomit, my mother-in-law will cry: “Oh my god, everyone of you is weak now, just a little bit of morning sickness.” In the past, your birth mother never had any morning sickness, she couldn’t eat anything.”
During my pregnancy, I didn’t dare buy anything to nourish myself. I like to eat healthy for my child, so I have to sneak out to eat by myself. One day I was eating alone and I burst into tears. If it were anyone else, the husband would have taken his wife out to eat when she was pregnant, but I just had to open my mouth to suggest and he would dismiss it. He never accepts his wife going out to eat and leaving her husband’s parents at home like that.
My life fell into an extreme deadlock. I’m pregnant but I haven’t had my mother-in-law or husband cook for me yet. I am still a maid in his family from morning to night. As long as I open my mouth to speak, my husband will give me all kinds of lectures and threaten to divorce me. I didn’t want my unborn child to be without a father, so I had to hold back.
Recently, my pregnancy overcame me and I had to make excuses, lie to the company about working overtime regularly, and stay at work until 10pm. I told my boss to hide this matter for me because I was afraid my husband would call and ask questions. And as expected, my husband found out through my friends, colleagues and boss. When he knew it was true, he stopped grumbling.
In fact, every night I sit in the office or go out to eat or drink alone to relax. I’m afraid of having to go home and face the arguing of my grandparents and the nagging of my mother-in-law. I’m afraid of living under pressure, afraid of breathing that stressful atmosphere every day.
I am extremely worried about my unborn child. Should I divorce to escape this situation? Actually, in my heart I still love my husband.
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