The 90s R&B & hip-Hop You Loved as a Kid…But Totally Misunderstood
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as adults, revisiting the soundtracks of our youth often reveals layers of meaning missed in childhood. For those who grew up in the 1990s, the era’s R&B and hip-hop hits are notably ripe for rediscovery, offering a potent blend of nostalgia and newfound understanding. These songs weren’t just catchy tunes; they were cultural touchstones, often tackling complex themes that flew over the heads of younger listeners.
Growing up in the 90s meant these songs were ubiquitous – on the radio, burned onto CDs, and forming the backdrop of countless childhood memories. Back then, singing along to them was simply fun. Now, a more critical ear reveals a surprising amount of nuance, awkwardness, and even unintentional instruction.
One song that stands out in this regard is Salt-N-Pepa’s “Let’s Talk About Sex” (1993). As one listener recalled, the song served as a crucial introduction to the topic for many.It arrived during a period of growing awareness surrounding HIV/AIDS, providing an accessible entry point for important conversations. Salt-N-Pepa, as the author notes, “threw down the gauntlet,” advocating for open and honest interaction about sex.
decoding the Confusion of Color Me badd’s “I Wanna S*x You Up” (1991)
Color Me Badd’s “I Wanna Sx you Up” presents a more perplexing case. The song’s lyrics reveal a startling lack of understanding regarding intimacy, even on a basic mechanical level.Featured on the New jack City* soundtrack, the song boasts promises like “We can do it ’til we both wake up.”
The author points out the obvious flaw in this proposition: if both parties are asleep, the activity has ceased. A crucial point is also raised regarding consent: “Even if only one of you is asleep, there should be no doing it. Everyone needs to be awake for intercourse to be consensual.” The lyrics’ mention of “making love until we drown” further adds to the confusion, leaving one to wonder if the band members themselves fully grasped the implications of their words.
Beyond the Slow Dance: The Instructional Nature of Boyz II Men’s “I’ll Make Love to You” (1994)
“I’ll Make Love to You” by Boyz II Men is a staple of junior prom slow dances for many. However, a closer listen reveals a surprisingly instructional quality. The lyrics read like a step-by-step guide to seduction: “Close your eyes/make a wish And blow out the candlelight… pour the wine/ Light the fire.”
As the author humorously notes, the song was so detailed that it could have served as a checklist for teenage boys. One individual even reinterpreted a line as a description of a reciprocal act of undressing. Despite its explicit nature, boyz II Men’s commitment to romance is undeniable, even if it meant guiding listeners through the process.
LL Cool J’s “Doin’ It” (1996): A Surprisingly Positive Portrayal
LL Cool J’s “Doin’ It” featuring Leshaun stands out for its surprisingly positive message. The song depicts a mutually eager encounter, with both participants openly expressing their excitement, discussing protection, and prioritizing enjoyment. The author argues that this portrayal is a model for healthy sexual communication, highlighting the importance of consent and mutual pleasure.
The song’s emphasis on post-coital connection – a “verbal high-five” – further underscores its positive message. Its a refreshing contrast to the frequently enough-subtle or ambiguous portrayals of sex in other popular music.
Of course, honorable mentions are due to other 90s classics like R. Kelly’s “Bump and Grind” and Ginuwine’s “Pony,” songs that sparked awkward conversations and a newfound understanding of lyrical content as many grew older. These songs, and countless others from the era, continue to resonate with those who experienced the 90s firsthand, offering a unique blend of nostalgia and self-discovery.
