Accompany and take care of you until death arrives. «The end is always so soon». Carmen is 21 years old and lost her father two months ago. “He was more than that, he was my best friend.” He was at his side during the three months in which the disease consumed him. What happened? «In these cases it doesn’t matter [prefiere no contarlo] because the important thing is how we deal with it,” says Carmen.
«This is not an anecdote. It’s my husband’s life and how we were with him
Interview: Coping with Grief and Care in End-of-Life Situations
Time.news Editor (TNE): Today, we’re delving into a delicate yet profoundly important topic—dealing with the loss of a loved one and the impact of caregiving during their final days. We have the privilege of speaking with grief counselor and end-of-life care expert, Dr. Laura Mitchell. Thank you for joining us, Dr. Mitchell.
Dr. Laura Mitchell (DLM): Thank you for having me. It’s vital that we discuss these experiences openly, as they affect so many people.
TNE: We recently heard a poignant story from Carmen, a 21-year-old who lost her father two months ago. She expressed that her father was more than just a parent; he was her best friend. In your experience, what are the psychological implications of losing a close loved one, especially at a young age?
DLM: Losing a parent at any age is profoundly impactful, but for young adults, it can be particularly disorienting. Carmen’s description of her father being her best friend suggests a deep emotional bond. The loss can lead to feelings of isolation, confusion, and intensified grief. It’s crucial for her—and others in similar situations—to seek support and express their feelings, which can facilitate the healing process.
TNE: Carmen mentioned that what really matters is how we deal with the loss rather than the specifics of the illness. What strategies do you recommend for coping with such grief?
DLM: It’s important to acknowledge one’s emotions. Journaling, talking to a trusted friend or counselor, or even joining a support group can help in processing these feelings. Engaging in memorial activities, such as creating a memory book or participating in community events in honor of the deceased, can also provide comfort and a sense of connection to the loved one.
TNE: From your expertise, how significant is the role of caregivers during the end-of-life phase? Carmen and her family were by her father’s side during his illness. How can caregivers best manage their own emotional health while supporting a loved one?
DLM: Caregiving is a vital role, but it can also be incredibly taxing. Caregivers often put their emotional health on hold. It’s essential for them to seek respite care, communicate their feelings, and carve out time for self-care. Balancing caregiving with personal well-being can prevent burnout, allowing them to provide better support.
TNE: You’ve mentioned a need for open conversations about death and grief. How can we further promote this important dialogue in our communities?
DLM: Initiating conversations about death can be uncomfortable, but it’s necessary. Communities can host workshops and seminars focused on grief education and end-of-life planning. Schools, workplaces, and even faith-based organizations can contribute by fostering environments where these discussions are welcomed and supported.
TNE: what practical advice can you offer readers who may be facing the impending loss of a loved one or navigating recent grief?
DLM: I recommend taking one day at a time. Allow yourself to feel, to grieve, and to cherish memories. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help if needed. Connecting with others who have experienced similar losses can also be invaluable. Remember, grief is a personal journey—there’s no right or wrong way to navigate it.
TNE: Thank you, Dr. Mitchell, for sharing your insights on such a deeply personal and significant topic. Your guidance will undoubtedly resonate with our readers who are experiencing loss.
DLM: Thank you for shedding light on these important discussions. It’s vital that we continue to support one another through our grief journeys.