When you start troubling someone by not getting drunk in the evening, you start feeling depressed, you start feeling low from inside, do the work with all your heart, to put it bluntly, you do not feel like doing work, nor do you have any desire to go to the abode. I started feeling like living in solitude and silence and a voice came from within that ‘I and my loneliness often talk to each other like this.’ When all these things start happening repeatedly and continuously then it becomes necessary to look for a solution. In fact, these can also be symptoms of increasing stress or onset of depression.Understand the matter – this is how he dealt with the challenges
Prabhash works in a private company. For the last few years, his appraisal has been less good than others. His promotion was also pending, that too was not given. Barring one or two, most of the people with him got good appraisal and also got promotion. However, Prabhash does his work with both heart and mind. But he had an ego. Overall his nature was good but he was stuck on the thinking of ‘why should I bow down’. Sometimes, even when there was a mistake, they were not ready to admit their mistake.
He started feeling that he was being discriminated against in the office. Because of this he started feeling continuously depressed. He used to work but the enthusiasm he had for work earlier was no longer visible. He started having trouble sleeping less at night and he was not even able to take care of his eating habits. During this time he also started smoking cigarettes. His interactions with other people in the office had also reduced. His wife was also upset with this behaviour.
She used to explain that no problem, look for another job. But Prabhash used to ignore his advice. He knew that finding a new job was not so easy. Anyway, this kind of environment can happen in any office. This situation continued for a few months. About a year ago, when Prabhash’s close friend came to know about his condition, he talked about it. Then he explained that if there are flowers in life, there will also be thorns.
Challenges will definitely come, we have to find a way to overcome them. Even though there is trouble in the office today, the situation may get better tomorrow. Keep doing your work properly. Do routine work and also do something out of the routine to change your mind. Think positive, meditate, exercise. Prabhash did not listen to everything his friend said, but changed his outlook towards life. Started taking work seriously again and also started jogging every morning. Due to this he gradually started becoming stronger physically and mentally. Then talked openly and intelligently to my boss. This time he got promotion and the appraisal was also good.
Are you stressed? sadness is? Know which stage we are on
normal
This is an ideal situation, but there are some ups and downs in it.
Answer these questions
- Are you a little stressed about anything?
- Does such mild stress make you do your work better and finish it faster?
- Do you also have a slight fear of the future?
- Do routine tasks, behaviour, relationships etc. remain the same despite mild tension?
- Do you feel happy and balanced every day?
- Do you usually sleep peacefully at night?
- Despite being stressed, do you give time to your hobbies, watch matches, listen to music?
- Does worrying about the future spoil your sleep?
- Do you sleep deeply and get 7-8 hours of continuous sleep?
- Are your relationships strong with your relatives and friends?
- Are you able to handle work pressure properly?
- Don’t you ever bring the pressure of office work home?
- Don’t stage too much at night because of tension?
- Do you do exercise along with yoga, meditation and walk at least 3 to 4 days a week?
Note: If the answer to all the above questions is yes then this is a normal situation. In such a situation, you do not need help from any psychiatrist or psychologist.
feel low
For any person, the state of feeling low can last from a few minutes to a few months. But efforts should be made to ensure that such situation does not continue for long. It is important to pay attention to both body and mind. Focus on eating well and regular exercise. Keeping positive thinking, one should also try to get involved in creative work.
Answer these questions
- Do you frequently feel low for a few minutes to a few hours?
- Are you unable to concentrate on any work due to constantly feeling low?
- Have you been feeling low continuously for one to one and a half months?
Note: If the answers to all these questions are ‘yes’ then you need an expert.
go to them
When the period of feeling low lasts for more than one to one and a half months, counseling may be required. During this time, it is possible that you may feel better for 1-2 hours a day, but overall, if you feel like passing the whole day in sadness, then help can be taken from a counselor. But first try it on your own. If you start seeing benefits while trying for the next 1 month, then continue trying. If your efforts do not seem successful, you can take help from an expert. Who can help: Psychologist, clinical psychologist or psychiatrist.
constant stress
Every person is troubled to some extent, but if the level of trouble becomes so much and persists that life gets derailed, then there is a need to get it treated.
Answer these questions
- Do you remain under a lot of stress and your routine work also gets disturbed a lot?
- Do you lose sleep at night because of stress?
- Do you also worry a lot about the future and is this worry troubling you mentally?
- Are you eating too much or too little?
- Are you unable to sleep due to stress, so you wake up at night and start eating something or the other?
- Do you often start having bad thoughts while thinking?
Note: It is true that every person experiences stress. If due to stress someone completes his work on time and fulfills his responsibilities properly, then stress is good. But when this stress reaches such a level that we start having trouble completing routine tasks. If you keep yearning for sleep till late night, treatment is necessary.
Go to: Help of a psychologist, clinical psychologist or psychiatrist can be taken. Stress can be related to anything. For example: There is a big expense coming up and the money is not being arranged, some mistake has been made and there is tension that everyone will know about it, etc.
being depressed
To some extent, this can also be called the last stage of low feeling or stress etc. Depression usually occurs due to anger over some past incident. This is a problem. For example: During the Corona era, many people passed away suddenly. His loved ones were saddened by this for many weeks and months. He was troubled by the fact that he could not save him.
In such a situation one becomes disappointed towards life. People start running away from problems. If depression is in its initial stage, it is possible that the person may think of taking help from an expert. But if someone is in severe depression then he is usually not in a position to answer on his own. Their family members or friends can help in this.
Answer these questions
- Are you unable to focus on any work or studies?
- Has the entire routine including sleeping, eating and drinking been disturbed?
- Is there constant sadness and the reason for it is not known?
- Has there been a decrease in confidence? Are you nervous about starting work?
- He starts crying on every issue. Do you remain silent?
- Have you become disappointed with yourself? Don’t feel like dressing up?
- There is no desire to overcome sorrow? Is this happening since last 15 days?
- Do you have frequent thoughts of harming yourself?
Note: If the answers to these questions are ‘yes’ then there should be no hesitation in assuming that the person is in depression. Accept this.
Go to: Such a person needs a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist. It is better to take such patients to a psychiatrist first because it is possible that the patient may have to be given medicine first and only the psychiatrist has the right to prescribe medicine. They are MBBS doctors. One should not delay in taking help from them. Family members, friends, colleagues etc. should definitely pay attention to such symptoms.
There are many reasons to feel low
compromise physical health
If a person is constantly careless about his health. If he does not take out time for himself, does not do physical activity for 1 to 1.5 hours 4 to 5 days a week, then it is possible that he may become a victim of some lifestyle related disease. For example: Diabetes, BP, Thyroid etc. Once one of these problems hits, the struggle to manage them begins. Then people start worrying that if they have diabetes today, other diseases will also arise in the future. Anyway, such news keeps coming that kidney or liver gets damaged after diabetes.
In such a situation, the person is forced to think negatively even without wanting to. Negative thinking becomes so dominant in some people that their enthusiasm for life gradually starts decreasing. Because of this many people often feel low. But there are some people who do not let these diseases dominate them. By walking every day, exercising and avoiding eating habits, along with taking medicine at the right time, one is successful in managing diabetes, BP and thyroid. Even if someday they get negative thoughts due to these diseases, they remove them on their own. Such thoughts do not have any bad effect on them. They do not feel low and continue doing their work normally. Therefore, to keep the health of the mind good, it is also important to keep the health of the body good.
not paying attention to mental health
weakness of mind
Some people are physically strong but get greatly affected by even small mental problems. The result is feeling low. There could be several reasons for this:
- Being under constant stress. This may last from a few weeks to several months
- A person may feel low in initial depression.
- Weakness of willpower due to repeated failure
- A childhood incident gets stuck in the heart
- Stay away from mindfulness i.e. meditation etc.
- Leaving everything to destiny, not strengthening the mind
suffering from old wounds
Many times, some past incidents bother you a lot. Many times the whole night is spent remembering those things. Such people often feel low. Therefore, if meditation or other measures do not work, the help of a psychologist or psychiatrist can be taken.
feel discriminated against
Discrimination in office or relationships also reduces people’s enthusiasm. If someone in the office gets more preference for the same type of work and same type of result, then the other may face problems. At the same time, if the less earning person in the family is less listened to, then it can be a cause of trouble. That person may feel low.
becoming judgmental
If you already form an opinion about other people that one person is bad and the other is good then you will face problems. Negativity comes for free when you become judgmental.
fall into perfection
No one in this world is 100 percent perfect, this must be kept in mind. If we have so many expectations then the tension will only increase. Everyone has shortcomings and mistakes.
put things off
Today’s work should be done today only. Postponing work increases stress. Anyway, one should not wait till the last moment to complete the work.
I have been finding you sad for many days now.
I don’t know what shocks you are bearing.
Those girls, those girls, they keep saying no
you look at everything with passion
-Sahir Ludhianvi
Note: Whenever someone feels low, what should be done in such a situation, read on this page next Sunday.
expert panel
– Dr. Sameer Parikh Senior Psychiatrist
– Dr. Satyakant Trivedi Senior Psychiatrist
– Dr. (Prof.) Manoj Sharma Clinical Psychologist NIMHANS
– Geetanjali Sharma Marriage-Relationship Counselor
– Pooja Priyamvada Relationship Counselor
Disclaimer: This article is for general information only. It cannot in any way be a substitute for any medicine or treatment. Always consult your doctor for more information.